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What I would say to my friend...if I had one

Sunday, March 21, 2010

I am so tired of faking it with people I work for when they say "hi, how are you?".....yeah, like they really want to know. I wish I could go away somewhere...anywhere...and not have to do everything for other people anymore. They think I'm happy to do all their cr*p and take care of everything for them day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year while they travel and live a great life (insert green headed envy monster here).
Someone once said "no" is a complete sentence. I know this will sound stupid but I just can't say "no". I don't have anyone in my life I would call a friend so when the people I know want me to work for them I do it because I don't want them to be mad at me. I told you it would sound stupid.
I wish I had a friend to talk to. I'm getting tired of talking to the dogs.
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  • GERIKRAGH
    Amen! But I don't even talk to the dogs!
    3553 days ago
  • 1_AMAZING_WOMAN
    "No" is a wonderful word. If feels great to use it when it applies. If people can't accept your "No" it's cause they want to control you, and get you to do what they want you to do.

    I used to not be able to say "No", but that was many years ago. Now I don't even care if people have a problem with me saying "No". It's their problem.

    Amber
    3553 days ago
  • AJDOVER1
    It DOESN'T sound stupid. It sounds like you know your resentment is misplaced. It seems you're angry with yourself and feeling sorry for yourself. Agreeing to work for them doesn't make you any less lonely. Some workplaces are not good places to make friends. Find friends elsewhere (you neighborhood, meetings, clubs, churches, a dog park, etc.) then make decisions about working for your co-workers based on realistic reasons -- not believing it will make them "like" you or not. You have a lot of likeable qualities -- concentrate on those and find people who appreciate you for who you are.
    I wish you the best!
    Hugs,
    Aurlie
    3553 days ago
  • SANDIANNE
    You know, I'll bet lots of folks, if not all of us, have felt that loneliness at one time or another. Life comes and goes in phases. What you feel today or this year, you will find totally ridiculous a year from now.

    I know you can pull yourself up and find solace within yourself, if not in others. You are strong and good. Hang in there. Every day is a gift, in my opinion, to learn something new about yourself.

    Sandi
    3553 days ago
  • HEALTHY4LIFE360
    WE are here for you and that's the wonder of SP because you are never truly alone. I feel your loneliness and understand as I also feel like that at times... but that's when it's important to keep posting/blogging and stay connected with your team members.

    I'm a Canadian member (living in Ottawa) and we are together in this healhier lifestyle journey!

    I hope this finds you feeling somewhat better. Wishing you a fabulous day!
    3553 days ago
  • LATVIAN_SANDY
    emoticon I'm sorry you're so down. And I REALLY think you need to learn to say that "no"! Others are not respecting you because, I think, you don't respect yourself. You can't let others walk all over you and then expect them to respect you. You are too nice of a person by doing everything for others, so you deserve niceness in return.

    And I think dogs are actually pretty good listeners. I talk to one myself.
    3553 days ago
  • MOMMA_BEAR_69
    I am here for you and know that Jesus is always available to listen to you. Sometimes it may seem as if He doesn't hear, but He always does. He just answers in his time, not ours. Know that you can also talk to me at any time...a comment on my spark page, a spark mail or and email...I will respond as quickly as possible.
    You don't have to fake it, my friend. Just be yourself.
    I am praying for you my friend and will continue to do so. Please keep us updated on how things are going with you. Spring is here and it can be a time of a new beginning for all of us.
    Blessings and hugs,
    Helen
    3553 days ago
  • MEADSBAY
    WHAT I AM SAYING TO A FRIEND:
    or
    WHAT I WOULD SAY IF YOU WERE MY DAUGHTER OR SISTER:

    Go back and read all of your blogs.
    Pull up your big girl pants and
    do what you know you need to do.
    What you are doing is not working on any level.
    With love,
    elizabeth
    emoticon
    3554 days ago
  • BEGONIAC
    You have us. Everyone who reads your blog feels your pain. And lots of us know exactly what you're talking about. I work for a lot of people I'm "friendly" with. Dancing fast enough to keep everybody happy can be tough, I know.
    Hang in there...I hope tomorrow will be a better day. emoticon
    3554 days ago
  • NAE_1289
    I think ur just a good person not a stupid person and people walk all over you cuz the know u are a genuinely good person. A good person doesn't mean ur a perfect angel because no one is. All this anger u got pent up I say put that anger and try to be assertive let people know "hey I'm willing to do things out of respect but do not disrespect me." It seems like ur really looking for respect and for people to appreciate you. The problem is some people are just so high up in their own ass that they dont see the people who are good and kinda just walk right through them. this is really cliche to say but you really shouldn't worry about these people they are not worth it. I wish there were things I could do to help change ur situation cuz I been there before. I go to college and I thought it would be a nice place to meet people but it seemed i was more exited to meet new people than the people I was meeting. Really mad me sad when I'd try talking to people and it seemed like they were distancing themselves from me BUT they still have the nerve to lean over and ask me "whats the answer to this..." during tests. Just keep in mind ur a good person. Don't doubt yourself in anyway. Its not ur problem it theirs.
    3554 days ago
  • LORTHOM2001
    you DO have a friend to talk to Spark Friend ... His name is Jesus.

    I know that THAT may sound weird to you but it is really true. Listen for a bit ... I am married, and for crying out loud, I when I try to ... it either ends up in an argument or I get "Shhhhhhh. let me hear the news!"

    So that leaves me with nothing, no one, nobody to talk to. So I try walking (for exercise) and talking (to God) cause only He totally understands it all. Best to you.
    3554 days ago
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