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Negativity really is counterproductive.

Saturday, March 06, 2010

Looking in the mirror with disgust is probably the worst thing anyone can do. We are who we are. We are what we are. At my highest weight I could still find things in myself to not only like but to admire.

I am honest. I do not lie, cheat or steal.

I am caring. I can be happy for others having good fortune.

The inner me has not changed. The outer me is only a shell.

When you look in your mirror, please try to see the best in yourself. It hurts me to read blogs that are self-deprecating. Can't you find anything positive to say to yourself?

Try harder. I know that we all have some good within us. Find that good and focus on it. The shell can be changed - One day at a time.
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  • SB1398
    This is so motivating, there are so many days when I have doubts about everything I am, and doubt that I have what it takes to reach my goals. I need to follow in your footsteps and think of all the good things in me :-)
    Thank you also for all the kind words on my blog emoticon
    2961 days ago
    Beautifully written, Linda. Thanks!
    2962 days ago
    This is so true, thanks for sharing!
    2963 days ago
    That is great advice. Cheers.
    2964 days ago
    awesome blog! Thanks honey!
    2965 days ago
    i could agree with you more linda. i am trying so hard to keep negativity out of my life. i am fed up with it
    2965 days ago
    Here here - it's the inside that counts!
    2965 days ago
    The profoundest Truths are always simple. Reminds me of the chapter of the Dhammapada on the Twin Verses:

    1 Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Suffering follows an evil thought as the wheels of a cart follow the oxen that draw it.

    2 Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Joy follows a pure thought like a shadow that never leaves.

    5 Hatred can never put an end to hatred; love alone can. This is an unalterable law.

    Thanks for the important wisdom!
    2965 days ago
    We need to be reminded of this regularly. There are so many fine human qualities that make people unique and special. I choose my friends because of who they are and how they are and not what they look like.

    Thanks Linda for expressing it so well.
    2965 days ago
  • _VALEO_
    Can't agree more with you, Linda.
    I'm a firm believer in the fact that if you want positiveness in your life, you have to think and be positive... negativeness attracts all kind negative things in your life.
    2965 days ago
    Well said. Even the most optimistic of us need an occasional reminder of what is truly important. And cellulite probably needn't be on the list.

    2965 days ago
    I'm glad you blogged about that. So many times I look in the mirror and only see yucky things I don't like. So I avoid mirrors.Need to change my outlook..Karen
    2965 days ago
    How right you are Linda. We all have a silver lining. Sometimes we just have to look a little harder to see it.
    Have a great day!

    2965 days ago
    Thanks, Linda, for another truly profound blog. Of course, the body is just a shell. And of course, our inner selves and our inner beauty is what matters. But it is easy to forget in a world so focused on the outside. Honest and caring are two great qualities! You display those qualities virtually every day, Linda. Thanks. -Marsha
    2965 days ago
    To JazzerciseGenie - I have posted on your SparkPage. Your blogs are allowed to reflect your inner emotions. What you are describing is not negativity but a depression caused by so much illness within your family. Not the same thing.

    You just keep on blogging your inner feelings and thoughts. Praise The Lord if this helps you to deal with your sisters' cancers. Anyone that leaves you a bad comment you can and should report to one of the Spark Coaches.

    On behalf of all of SparkPeople, I apologize for the insensitivity of less informed members.

    You are welcome in any of my Spark Teams with your blogs describing your inner feelings!

    2965 days ago
    I think there is a difference between self-loathing and having negative feelings about situations in one's life. I make every effort to see the good side of each situation, but to deny that you feel is sad is another way not to accept yourself. A wise priest I knew used to say, "Be gentle with yourself."
    2965 days ago
    This is really key stuff: thanks! Like you, I'm sad to read self-deprecating blogs or to see people using names for themselves which suggest that self-loathing. I've been there too. But: it's certainly something to be aware of and try to combat.
    2965 days ago
  • SABLE77
    good post, it helps to have reminders.

    Have a Great Day!
    2965 days ago
    I am glad you can always see the positive in yourself. That is great to hear! Too much is always focused on the shell.
    Losing weight was just a bonus, my goal is and always will be to be as fit as possible and to eat healthy, to try and prevent my condition from crippling me for as long as possible and to recover from the surgeries quickly without regaining the weight like usually what happens when I can't exercise after them for a while.
    I more than most people, can appreciate and love the feeling of being able to move!!
    2965 days ago
    So very true! There has to be something you admire about yourself. Think positive, act positive and be positive!
    2965 days ago
    Great reminder... now I have to go think... what is it I value on the inside of me?

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    2965 days ago
    yes thanks for the blog. I am suffering with depression and famile medical problems(2 sisters with cancer) I found out yesterday I am making some team members tired of my talking about how difficult it is. So today I will post only good ideas. I thought blogs was your inner feelings like this but apparantly some find that bad.
    2965 days ago
  • TJB_TX
    Wow! Thanks for the positive vibes. I agree that what you are on the inside is truly the most important thing and working from the inside out makes a better you.

    Have a great day!

    2965 days ago
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