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Held Hostage

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

No, I will not be held hostage. As most people know I've been in dire need of a Nurse. I will not just hire a warm body. I 've had the privilege of someone here at Spark helping me screen people, as I get so tired, but anyhow I understand that we are too also blog about our progress,and that's what I will do.

At first I was bending over backwards to help the nurse who has been here almost a year. Yesterday morning she "ambushed" me and said-"I want every other weekend off"-Fri-Sat-Sun, I made the April's schedule and sure enough she wrote her self in every other weekend. Now I have no problem with this: My problem was how she approached me, and demanding it. I will not be held "hostage" by anyone. When she came in last night, her first question was " did you tell Paul I'm taking weekends off? I looked her directly in the eyes and said "you can have whatever you want off, I have and will take care of John no matter what it takes. I don't depend on anyone and everyone is replaceable. I think it stunned her because she didn't say anything back,although a while later while giving John a shower, her tone changed.

My progress? I can/will stand up to anyone IF I believe truly I am right. I had no back bone before but keeping John in my mind I do and will. I'd rather walk away from confortation than dealing with it. Yes at times I still walk away if I know arguing will get me nowhere but I will take care of John. I have someone coming in tonight at 7pm to see John-John's routine. If she's good,she's hired,If not than I'll keep looking because no one will hold me hostage
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    Guess she never watched that show "Who's the Boss" !!! emoticon
    2964 days ago
    Yay for you! And for the staff you are dealing with--they should know better than to cross a loving Mom!
    I can relate--I have 2 sons with special needs, and can't tell you how many PCA's (Personal Care Attendants) we have gone through because they want to sit around and text throughout their shift...I keep thinking that with the high unemployment, people would value their jobs!
    Praying that you find the right staff soon...
    2966 days ago
    Good for you Kathleen! Instead of the nurse telling/demanding that she have every other weekend off she simply could have just said that I'm going to take ever other weekend off if that's alright with you? Or asked to and said that she really needs every other weekend off. I'm sure you realize this but it's people like her that irritates me to no end! Kudos to you though for replying to her the way you did! Getting irritated her behavior could have made things worse. So, good for you for keeping calm! I really hope the new nurse works out for you!

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    2970 days ago
    You go girl!!!! No one should try to imtimidate you into doing what they want you to do. Stay strong!
    2971 days ago
  • KCIR1959
    Special K, you need to expect the same of people as you expect of yourself. You won't find many that meet that measurement, however, you have to aim high and keep replacing those that come up too short. You're line of work is too important for those that aren't committed. Thinking of you, Rick emoticon
    2972 days ago
    Kathleen - you are really doing a great job and I applaud you for doing what you know is right. Sorry though that this situation is still not resolved for you. Keeping my fingers crossed that the new nurse will work out. Sending hugs your way.

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    2972 days ago
    You go girl.....keep being strong!!!

    2972 days ago
    Way to be strong!! You deserve a nurse that will do her job and John deserves someone who will do her job with care for him.
    Best of luck on your journey! emoticon
    2972 days ago
    Kathleen- You are so strong, and I can see how this nurse is in some ways...I hope that this new nurse tonight, will help ease some of pressures, even if its just so that you can be able to take a nice long hot, bubble bath to relax with a great book! Sending positive vibes that the new nurse works out, hugs to everyone there emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2972 days ago
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