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#235: Are You Trying To Steer A Rope?

Friday, February 19, 2010

I met an interesting lady this afternoon, a psychotherapist. We talked about the major type of problems she counsels patients on. Depression was number one, although the reasons for the depressions were varied. emoticon

I asked if her patients had any traits in common and she replied by telling me a story of her son, a high-school student who is studying forces -- gravity, inertia, etc. -- and told her about a class he'd had where the class lesson was that a rope can't be steered.

There must have been a confused look on my face because she explained that a rope simply is, it doesn't move unless some force, a person for example, applies some force to it such as swinging it. Then she related a story of a man pulling a rope behind him down a street. A woman asked why he was pulling a rope. He replied, "Did you ever try to push one?" emoticon

"But what does a rope have to do with your patients?" I asked.

It's simple," she said. "Too many people are trying to move an inanimate object without applying force. They want things to change, but aren't willing to put forth the effort needed to make things change. They are trying to steer the rope without applying force to it." emoticon

She smiled and continued, "Many people want to change their appearance, their income, their relationships, whatever, but do not want to apply the effort needed to make an improvement."

Then, specifically related to weight loss, she explained that a mere wish for a change is like watching a rope lying on the ground. Just watching it does nothing. A person must grab the rope and swing it, apply force, to get it to move, to change it, so to speak.

So the obvious question becomes, "If you truly want to change, are you making a sincere effort at altering your eating and exercise habits emoticon, or are you trying to steer a rope emoticon
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    Ah... that is my little soapbox poster child. In my opinion so many people desire change but are unwilling to put out the effort. They would prefer a magic formula in the form of pill, surgery... whatever; as opposed to trying to change themselves!
    Great blog. Thanks for sharing.
    4070 days ago
    I like the word FORCE ....most times I make a effort ,but not enough to produce the results I want . If we want big results I think we will have to use enough force to get us out of our comfort zones.

    I voted for this blog too. I found it very interesting. Thanks Lou, Hugs, Joy
    4071 days ago
    You always give me a lot to think about.

    Thanks, Lou.

    4071 days ago
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    Lou, I really loved this blog. Thanks for sharing. It is one of those things that I shall remember FOREVER!
    4071 days ago
    LOU!!! This is one of the BEST blogs I've ever read!!! I voted for it! WELL SAID!! What a GREAT analogy! I had to finally figure it out and learn that a LOT of the success would be up to ME! Yay Lou!
    4072 days ago
    This is an interesting way to look at a problem that we, as Americans, have in general.

    I think I HAVE been steering the rope. I, like people in general, want easy, quick fixes. All right, I have admitted my problem, now I need to apply some force to make a change.

    Thanks for the thought.
    4072 days ago
    Interesting, and oh, so true! Thanks for sharing this with us!
    4072 days ago
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