Stress Relief?

Monday, February 15, 2010

My mother had a surprise visit to the hospital a few days ago, perhaps a mild heart attack, and a medical procedure (angioplasty) while she was there. Scary enough.

But when she awoke from the procedure she was literally out of her mind, fighting, kicking, hitting. So disturbing and frightening. She stayed that way for over 24 hours, with us not knowing why, really, or when or IF she'd return to normal.

Thoughts of assisted living and nursing homes plagued my dreams. Not many dreams, because I didn't sleep much.

Finally, today, this afternoon, just a short while ago, my Aunt called me and said, "She's BACK". I called her room and talked to her and she sounded good, like herself, like my mother. I was so relieved I just burst into tears.

I have lived a stressful life and handled stress well all those years, raising my family, holding down my job, no matter what the stress.

So why, now, can I no longer seem to handle any real stress? Stress seems to manifest physcially in my body almost instantly. My body just shuts down; collapses. I can't sleep. This makes it much, much worse. I stay in the bed and do breathing exercises, thinking I'm going to have a heart attack of my own, I just feel so bad.

I don't know what happened to my stress-defense. It's gone. I have to find a way to get it back. Or at least stay aware of what's happening so I don't make it worse. Or find some good way to relieve it.

Anyway, it's over now. This time. I feel better again. Tonight I'll sleep and tomorrow I'll start the day fresh.

Thank you all who expressed such sweet sentiments and helped me through this difficult time.

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    Aww so sorry Karen, I am glad to hear she is back to her old self and glad you are keeping us posted so we can send you hugs and support.

    You're doing a great job Karen I'm really proud of you.
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    3010 days ago
    Karen I am so emoticon to hear about your mom. I am glad she is better. I can understand how you must feel. Mom's are our life line, and we need them, even if we are taking care of them instead of them taking care of us.
    I haven't had my computer for a while and I'm late in reading blogs. But my thoughts and prayers are with you both.
    God Bless
    3013 days ago
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    3014 days ago

    I'm so sorry to hear you mom has been so sick, I am glad to hear she is doing better. I know this has been so stressful for you, Please try to take some time for you. My mom is 84 she just had a bout with shingles! So take care and I hope your mom continues to get better,

    3015 days ago
  • CATHY629
    Karen i am glad your mom is better, i hope she continues to improve,i find exercise does help with stress especially swimming, it also helps to have someone to talk to, a problem shared and all that.
    I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
    3015 days ago
  • JUSTJO66
    Kren, I'm so sorry to hear that you have been dealing with so much stress lately. I'm glad that your mother is doing better. It is very hard most the time for the elderly to be in the hospital. The combination of the drugs, the condition that put her there, and the disorientation of the procedure and hospital...I'm sure all contributed to her lapse in mental status. All extremely stressful for everyone. I think it's usually the uncertainty of EVERYTHING that causes the most stress. Sometimes it just comes to a point where the OVERLOAD is just too much for us to handle. That is personally when I have to surrender and ask my Lord to take it...that "I can't do it anymore". I will pray for you to find peace and for the stress to be more manageable. You will find the answers...I am sure. You are obviously a very resourceful, resilient person. Sleep and rest always helps. My thoughts go out to you.

    3015 days ago
  • --KREN
    Thank you all. I do remember now, that I used to go out and walk several miles when I was stressed! I loved it, did some good thinking and it left me feeling great. I can no longer walk to that extent, so I need to find some exercise I CAN do and focus on that when I'm stressed! The water work sounds good. Karen
    3015 days ago
  • NANCY-
    When it comes to loved ones... the stress is different. be kind to yourself, you will find something that helps.

    take a walk
    phone a friend
    3015 days ago

    I can completely understand your stress. i have gone through similar problems when my family has been very ill. I hope you can get some much needed rest now.
    3015 days ago
  • GABY1948
    Karen, I was there with both my parents. My dad was like your mother...in and out for so long but his was a result of hospitalization for colon cancer and the doctors just told me it happens often in elderly when out of their element. VERY scary. My mother, like her mother, had Alzheimer's (REAL Alzheimer's...there IS a difference from dementia) but whatever it is it is just disheartening. Your parent is there one day and not the next. I am so glad it turned out well this time...Just keep her out of the hospital! LOL Like you have a choice! So glad it turned out well!
    3016 days ago
    Kren I am so glad your mom is better. You take care of yourself and get a good nights sleep. I'll say a little prayer for you both. Stress can really cause us problems so I hope you can get a handle on it and figure out how to relax.
    Onward and Downward in 2010. PJ
    3016 days ago
    I've experienced this type of reaction in the hospital with my dad. His "dementia" continued for months. This was an incredibly stressful time in my life. So glad to hear your mother is back.

    Nowadays, I handle stress through exercise. I just feel so much calmer and function better after a workout. So get into that water whenever you can!
    3016 days ago
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