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Perfection and acceptance

Sunday, February 14, 2010

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. ... I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.”

I have a hard time with perfection – the good old on-off personality. I love making plans and putting up goals but as soon as my life and doings does not cope perfectly with those plans I fall off completely and find myself burping on the sofa…

There has to be a level of ”good enough” to accept – there´s even a selfhelp book with that title ”good enough”.

I´m just suspicious that I will let ”good enough” mean ”second best” and that is NOT good enough:

”Once you say you're going to settle for second, that's what happens to you in life, I find.”
- John F. Kennedy.

Coming Thursday I have a mission to educate some people from the region in ”Media handling” – I can feel that it makes me tense already. I have had this lecture before and it has been appreciated. But it was a while ago and suddenly my confidence is shaky. To feel secure I will use three-four hours today and tomorrow to freshen up the material in my brain – and then Tuesday Wednesday I will do some rehearsal . It is an important lecture because it will give new customers if it works well.

Just for today… I will accept that tomorrow disturbs my peace of mind and I can handle it by giving it some attention and preparation.

One of my problems with that lecture is that I feel so FAT - that has not happened to me before and I have been heavier than now!

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    hmm, maybe learn some deep breathing exercises for jsut beofre your speech to calm you.

    Repeat yuor mantra - you are not your past any longer, you are you here & now and can be a success and make this work for you because it is what you desire and need!

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    3631 days ago
    It is hard to accept 2nd best but I don't look at it that way. You are accepting the imperfections in others just as you would want others to accept the imperfections in yourself. As much as I would like to think otherwise, nothing is perfect, as we find out very early in life. I think of each situation as a opportunity for me to become stronger and more accepting. emoticon
    3631 days ago
    Sounds like you have a good plan to deal with this... be proud of yourself for not letting the anxiety cloud your thinking. You can do this!
    3631 days ago
    Oh! dear!
    Minutes ago, i have been arguing with my perfectionist son for his attitude of the perfect moment, the exact hour, the not gooden, happy, handsome, trained e.t.c. - enough,
    Well, i do not know. I believe my Spyros needs this tend/desire to perfection to boost him otherwise he would be unmotivated, idle or too lazy to do things....
    I can witness his always fighting with his desire for the "perfection ghost" but i feel unable to change it or argue successfully with him.
    According to my system of values , it is a bless to be able to adapt perfectly to the things that come onto you AND in addition get all the pleasure possible from this adaptation and new form (but maybe this is what made me fat the previous years).
    Maybe it is my fear to chase something always bigger, untangible, something always out of reach..
    Good luck
    3631 days ago
    Seems to me that we can all only do our best though I know only too well that it is hard to accept our ‘best’ if it isn’t also perfect by our own standards. I don’t ever want to be second best either but I also don’t want to be burping hopelessly on the sofa – I do far too much of that.

    Preparation and good follow-through are the way towards perfection (for me at least) whether delivering a lecture, my bodyshape or solving family troubles . . . whatever. After that I try to live by my ‘mantras’ – ‘it is what it is' – 'it was what it was.’ It’s often not enough but for me it’s a step towards the self-acceptance I seek and sometimes – though not always – saves me some agony.

    Will be thinking of you on Thursday emoticon
    3631 days ago
    Ahhh yes, I know the struggle with perfection well. Something that has helped me in the past is the affirmation, "I'm learning it's okay to make mistakes." I printed this in big letters and put it on my mirror in the bathroom so I saw it everyday. At first, I couldn't even look at it, but slowly and with time, I've come to be able to say this freely. I do hope there is a permanet groove that's been created in my brain so I never forget it's okay to make mistakes. Making mistakes makes all of us a lot more human.

    Good luck with your lecture and you are NOT too fat!
    3631 days ago
    I, too, struggle with perfection. Now when it pops his head (and I have done my best), I remind myself that to be a perfect human being I have to make mistakes.
    3631 days ago
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