Sharing Your Success
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
This actually works! I am extremely competitive and sometimes boast about my work. I had seen how people resonded to that and have really backed off from sharing what I was proud of. I have finally realized the difference between sharing a success and boasting about "winning".
When I boasted it came across that I some how thought I was better than the other person. It instantly sent them into a defensive mode where they felt they had to prove themselves back (a pissing contest if you will). Yesterday, though, at work I had an extremely matted dog (reminder that I'm a dog groomer) that my associates didn't think was salvageable (meaning the figured I'd shave the dog instead of de-mat it). The owner really likes the dog long and I had already sent the dog home once before for her to work out the mats in pieces at home. I really worked hard and managed to completely de-mat the dog without hurting it or upsetting it too much. I was genuinely excited that I would be able to make the customer happy and so I brought the dog upfront to show my other associates and they were happy for me. It really made me feel great to see that they cared about my success and encouraged me on.
What a difference!
I also feel a big motivation when I lose weight and it posts to facebook and my friends all congratulate me and give me an electronic pat on the back.
This is a great type of reward and one I think a lot of people miss out on because they don't want to seem like they are bragging or boasting. When it comes to weightloss though it's all about getting healthier and it's not really a competition (unless you're doing a spark challenge). The kind words and support and encouragement you get from friends and family can help you get through the rough moments and motivate you to stay on track. It also shows your friends and family that you are putting forth the effort and getting results and it's not just another "thing" you're doing for a while.
Congrats to everyone who had successes recently, I'd love to hear about them!