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I'm Not The Resolutionary Kind

Sunday, January 03, 2010

The original intention of this blog was to state my resolutions for the new year. To tell you the truth, I don't really agree with resolutions. Especially if you plan on starting them January 1st. Who actually sticks to them for more than a month anyway? I guess some people do, but they're definitely not the norm.
I purposely started my weight loss program before the holidays and before the new year.
In previous years, I would write out my ridiculous little list. It was always FAR too ambitious and typically looked something like this...
1. Lose 100 lbs.
2. Go to the gym every day for at least 2 hours
3. Journal every day
4. Call my mom every day
5. Floss twice a day
6. Volunteer at the soup kitchen every day on the way home from the gym
7. Run a marathon
8. Bring peace to the world
9. Get The Smiths back together
10. Write my memoirs

I would do great for the first month or so. Then I'd get lazy or something would come up, preventing me from fulfilling my daily duties. One by one, my resolutions would dissolve into thin air. I couldn't just revise my list and start over again tomorrow. The year was ruined!
So, I'd settle back into my regular routine, re-introduce my butt to the couch and wait again until next year. Dumb.
It always made me feel like a failure and I'd slip into a funk. WHY am I so weak willed? WHY can't I stick to my goals? Beating myself up always included a calorie fest and a whole lot of inactivity.

Which makes me think of something that happened recently...
My husband has smoked cigarettes off and on for the last decade. All of his friends smoke, so he'll bum a few here and there. After a while he'll break down and buy his own pack. He knows I hate when he smokes and feels slightly guilty for doing so. I gave him "the eye" sometime last week when I saw him pull a pack out of his pocket, but didn't say anything because it's his health after all. As he lit up, he said "This is my last pack, I swear. Only two cigarettes left in the pack."
I thought that if he threw out the last two cigarettes and stopped right then and there, he would prove to himself that he was serious about stopping. Why does he have to smoke the last two, knowing that he plans on quitting?

I've been on SparkPeople for more than 15 weeks now. In that time, I've lost more than 30 lbs. Eating within my range is now second nature to me and the cravings for fatty foods are pretty mild. I'm not saying this will always be true. I'm just REALLY tired of not being happy with my weight. I am FINALLY truly ready. I'm not giving myself a chance to go back to the way things were. It's no longer an option. It doesn't take hours a day in the gym or eating twigs and berries. It can be done simply by making wise choices and moving a bit each day. If I eat an entire cheesecake because I have a craving I can no longer ignore, then I'll jump right back onto the wagon the next day. It doesn't have to be on a Monday or the first of the month or January 1st. It just has to happen right away.
The weight loss is going to happen, so that is no longer really a "goal" for me. So, instead of a list of resolutions, I've compiled a list of things I look forward to doing in 2010

- Running my first 5k (in Feb.) and possibly my first 10k (later in the year of course)
- Being able to see my feet in the shower
- Seeing the scale read 150 lbs.
- Shopping for clothes in any store besides Lane Giant
- Less back and foot pain

I'm sure that I will be adding to this list over the next few months.
Goals are nice to have, for sure. But since I'm not giving myself a choice to NOT lose weight, it no longer feels like a "goal".
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    Keep adding to the list. Everyday will bring something new to your journey. From someone that has lost over 100 pounds, don't forget to enjoy the little victory's along the way too. Sometimes the little victory's are the best one's.

    Best wishes,
    3204 days ago
    This is a great blog! Best wishes to you!
    3205 days ago
    Great blog. You're doing awesome. Keep it up!!
    3206 days ago
    Right on!!!! Keeping it doable is so important and picking ourselves up, dusting ourselves off and doing it again equals success, emoticon emoticon
    3206 days ago
    Awesome blog and your progress. I am cheering you on to the finishe line. Liz
    3206 days ago
    I say WOW!!!

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    Just keep coming back -- I've subscribed to your blog!!!

    3206 days ago
    Great blog! Thanks for sharing!!

    Coach Jen
    3206 days ago
    emoticon You're doing super! emoticon
    3206 days ago
    Awesome blog!!! My history is all that you have and worse (cause I'm such a poof...). My tush is way to familiar w/my couch still!! Thanks for the inspiration!

    3206 days ago
    Thanks for the splendid insight, wow, I like the cigarette plan story. Hope you share it with your husband, because you love him and because it is insightful.

    3249 days ago
    First of all, sorry for not commenting sooner; I've been buried alive with lots of stuff, and trying to get back on Sparkpeople too!

    Here's my thoughts on resolutions; no one should force themselves to make 'em just because it's New Years! My philosophy is to set little goals that I feel are acheiveable: 5 pounds by March 1, will go to one networking meeting a week, will walk 3 miles 5 times a week, etc. Once I'm comfortable with them, then I up the ante. So another 5 pounds, walking 6 times a week, you get the idea.

    I also feel that slow and steady is the way to go, especially with eating habits and losing weight. It's not a diet, it's a lifestyle. Diet is too darn harsh for me, and I always deem it as temporary. Just doesn't work.

    OK, I've given you some stuff to think about! Best to you in 2010...it's gonna be great!
    3253 days ago
  • NANNER2121
    I don't make "resolutions" either. I'd rather focus on making permanent lifestyle changes that are do-able and that I can commit to. Goals are wonderful as they can be short and long range and you can adjust/modify to accommodate necessary changes in order to reach them.

    3257 days ago
    Erin, that is a really good blog. You are a good writer and I am sure I will enjoy reading more of your great insights in the future. I've subscribed--keep up the good work!
    3259 days ago
    Ha! I liked the Smiths part, too.

    Hope your 2010 is a great one!
    3260 days ago
    Great blog! I enjoyed it. You make some really good points.

    Keep up your dedication and hard work!
    3264 days ago
  • no profile photo SABRINAWHO
    So you're saying you're NOT going to try to get The Smiths back together? emoticon

    Great blog entry! Those moments when it all makes sense...the WHY connects with the HOW....are the greatest! You have solid goals, and you'll see them happen!

    3264 days ago
    Sounds like a good plan! Good luck (Lane Giant makes me laugh:)
    3264 days ago
  • LISAW/3
    Great blog and you've set some great goals for yourself! Way more manageable that way!
    Here's to 2010 and continued success! :)
    3264 days ago
  • ADAMM9
    Chuckled when I read Lane Giant.

    Great goals. You'll achieve them and more!

    See you at standup...
    3264 days ago
    Great goals...can see you reaching those and MORE! :-)

    3264 days ago
  • AMS012
    I also made a list of goals instead of resolutions. Resolving to do something means "I'm going to do this RIGHT NOW" instead of "I hope to achieve something this YEAR". Less pressure.

    Well written post. I'm with you on the 10K this year. Let's make it happen.
    3264 days ago
    Looks like a workable plan. You are already on the road to success.
    Keep up the good work. I don't make resolutioins either. They are too easily pushed to the side. We often make unreasonable resolutions for ourselves when what we need is a plan to SUCCEED. Great new year ahead for you.
    Keep up the good work and hope to see you on the threads.

    3264 days ago
    What a wonderful blog! My only resolution this year is to enjoy each day for whatever it brings me. Thanks for sharing! emoticon
    3264 days ago
    I love it, I hate resolutions also, never had much use in them because they seem to loose steam around the time February rolls around. Glad to see someone else feels the same way.
    I like your goals, anything I can do to help support you, I'm here!
    I am going to keep pluggin away at mine for now, no year long ones, I work better on short terms ones.

    3264 days ago
    Love the Lane Giant!!! I relate. I never thought about it before but I haven't seen my feet in the shower for years!
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    3264 days ago
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