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Holy Moly I Set a Goaly!

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Monday, December 28, 2009

Like everyone else it seems, the holidays were a busy time for me. After writing my last blog trip down memory lane with my Christmas decorations, I took some time off to read and enjoy other people's blogs. I was grateful that so many people took time out of their festivities to write, especially at Christmas because I certainly needed the extra inspiration and motivation.
But now that Christmas is over, I have started to feel the itch to write again myself. But what about? I was sitting at the computer the other day typing and deleting, typing and deleting. I just couldn't get into the groove. I've sort of gotten into the pattern of "story telling" and generally would like to continue that format, but coming up with a topic this time was a challenge. I had already written a confessional blog after Thanksgiving. Give it up, Joanne, I told myself. People want motivation not another tabloid insider report on me being caught with peanut brittle in my mouth!
In frustration I turned to my husband who, bless his heart, was taking down all the last vestiges of the the holiday decorations. "I'm having trouble writing my blog. I need a topic. I've got to have a theme. Help me!"
He looked up through artificial pine branches and said "What? Are you blogged up?
Try fiber! Works for me!" And with that he rolled around on the floor in the tinsel chortling "Blogged up! Get it? Fiber? Oh man, I kill me!"

I married a comedian...

I've been reading "The Spark" by Chris Downey, which, by the way, is a FANTASTIC book -- I highly recommend it! He goes into quite a bit of depth on the subject of goal setting. Very inspiring.

Hmm... I could blog about goals. Uh huh. Yes. Yes I could. But then I --
And you can hear a pin drop in the whole Spark World.
Here's a woman who actually lost 70 lbs. without really setting any specific goals. Oh I had loose aspirations. Exercise regularly. Eat low fat, high fiber, low sugar. But the hows and how oftens were left up to chance. Like a lot of things in my life, I muddled through the mine field of weight loss with a general lack of organization. That's the negative way of looking at it. I give credit to Nike for actually making me manage to feel positive about my lack of goals--
And that's exactly what I did. My husband is the same way. When he decided after 35 years of smoking to quit. He quit. No patches, pills, gums, or tapering down to a quit date for him. He just quit. For him it's the modis operendi he prefers.
If he can just "do it" and Nike sanctions it, it must be the way to go. And it worked for me.
However, I look back now and realize how lucky I was. Manys the time I sank without an anchor when I set sail on my weight loss journeys. I've blogged before about my yo-yo dieting pattern.
When I hit my desired weight 4 years ago and was faced with maintenance, I realized that keeping the weight off wasn't going to be any easier of a task. Yeah, you say to yourself, but now your good eating choices and exercise are habits. You've changed your lifestyle. Made routines.
True -- to an extent. But once the numbers on the scale quit declining and people quit gushing about how good you look, the motivation starts to dwindle. Maintenance is like doing the dishes. You know it needs to be done, but it's still a chore.

Finding SparkPeople.com was like discovering the land of milk and honey for me. I love the wonderful friends I've met and the inspiring stories I've read. Daily encouragement. The tools they provide -- and all at no cost -- are second to none on any other website that I've explored or even paid for. But I admit, I've been a little lazy about taking advantage of those tools like I should.
Maybe, just maybe, my maintenance efforts wouldn't seem like such a struggle if I used them consistently. Organized a little. Set some goals.
Now why this should be difficult, I don't know for the life of me. I am a nurse who at work, is highly organized and efficient. My work area is pristine. My charting is precise. I never compromise on sterile procedure.
I looked up at my husband who was now back to the serious task of dissembling our Christmas tree. "I'm thinking I need to set some goals. Not new years resolutions. These start now and if I slip, I don't won't need to wait for another new year to begin."
"Yup", he replied, "Sounds good".
"Do YOU ever set goals?" I asked. He stopped what he was doing for a moment, in thought. "Nope".
"Never?" I queried?
"Well maybe one. It's kind of an ongoing goal. But I actually need your assistance".
My mind was spinning with the possibilities and I hardly heard what he said. I was so inspired by "The Spark". I can do this I thought. Let my goals motivate me. I could plan rewards. I reached for my notebook and began to scribble notes and outlines.
I exited out of the now blank blog entry and hit the Microsoft word icon.
Diet, exercise, sleep, running, budget, vacation, parents, writing, poker...
The lists went on. I was careful to outline the big pictures and break them down into intermediate and even smaller easier goals. I was going to get some serious streaks going! Not so many as to overwhelm myself. Keep them within reach.
Excited, I ventured down stairs into the family room where my husband was now reclining on the sofa watching "Cops". Waving my notebook, doing a little victory dance, I plopped down on the end of the sofa and announced, "I made my goals!! Do you want to hear them???"
Briefly he looked at me like do I have to? But, wisely I might add, he dutifully turned off the television and sat up.
He managed to maintain eye contact and murmur Uh -Huh appropriately while I recited what I came up with. I was so proud that I had actually set these goals and wrote them down. I told him I was going to publish my goals to the WHOLE Spark community so I had some accountability too! I chatted away excitedly. I'm going to write one blog and then turn around and write part II detailing them in a few days, I told him.
He patted my leg and said "Good job! Um - are we done here"? He got up to go upstairs on a snack hunt. Suddenly I remembered that he had told me he was going to set a goal that required my assistance. "Wait! I didn't hear YOUR goal. Come on! Share with me!" I was pumped now. We'd help each other. Side by side. Goal setters! Watch what we can achieve!
Turning, he smiled.
"My goal? -- More sex."
He must have seen my face fall because he jabbed the air and pronounced "And THAT is precisely why I don't set goals -- they never get fulfilled!!"

Yep, I married a real comedian........

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    I loved this blog-Very entertaining!
    3048 days ago
    Love it - as usual! I was reading along, thinking (again) how much we have in common -- goal setting is just NOT my thing, and never has been. I just finally tonight came up with one for my Spark Page -- but it's pretty broad. Maybe when I get THE SPARK and read his goal-setting thoughts, I'll be inspired with something specific.

    And then came the end of your blog ... (smiling here 'cause I thought he needed your help with the decorations). The anniversary card my hubby gave me a couple weeks ago says on the front in BIG letters: HOT SEX NOW! And we are enjoying working on that goal together.
    3064 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/3/2010 11:43:52 PM
    Joanne, I think it's great we married comedians. It keeps the marriage interesting. emoticon I try not to make goals. They usually fall by the way side. I like to just say what I'm going to do and then...do it. Most of the time, it works.

    Though it would be nice to pick one or two things, now, and see if I can stick with it. I think I'll try it!

    As always, I loved your blog!! emoticon emoticon
    3066 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/1/2010 10:03:33 PM
    Well... You know... you can take his goal on as one of yours... set your mind to blow his away... tire him out, and have him ask for mercy.... plus burn lots of calories in the process! I did get a great giggle out of your blog, as my Hubby would come up with a similar statement.... I'm sure!

    3066 days ago
    hahahahhaha i think i love your husband...i want a picture of your face when he said that!!!
    3066 days ago
    Nope, actually it burns calories. And releases endorphins. You can see, he just wants to do it for your health.
    3067 days ago
    I like your husband's goal. Sex is one of the few things in life better than food, and it's not fattening!

    3068 days ago
    You did marry a comedian. He is too funny! I got a really good laugh out of this blog. Thank You! I wish you and your husband good luck on your goals.

    Happy NewYear,
    3068 days ago
    Sure enjoyed your blog, great inspiration. I loved the banter back and forth with the other half. Life has to be full of fun.
    I too have been poor on goals, might have to take another look at them.
    Have a great New Year.
    Skeeter emoticon
    3069 days ago
    You know...been struggling with this whole *GOAL* thing myself lately...

    There's nothing like nailing a goal that really SPARKS and REVS a body up!

    Hoping when the holiday dust settles I'll be honing in on at least one or two goals to light me up like a Christmas tree throughout the year ahead!


    ps...oh! and if you haven't been following her blogs, I HIGHLY recommend everyone keep an eye on 4A-HEALTHY-BMI...she is an AMAZING example of what SP is all about and MAINTENANCE is one of her top priorities these days.
    3069 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/29/2009 10:39:14 PM
    Loved this blog, Joanne! I have been missing your blogs! I love your husband's sense of humor which is much like my own but it's not as much fun when you then have to explain my humor to hubby. emoticon I also like this quote:
    "Maintenance is like doing the dishes. You know it needs to be done, but it's still a chore. " Ohhhhh so sadly true!!

    Looking forward to Part II emoticon

    3069 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/29/2009 7:03:47 PM
  • LAURIE5658
    Remember my "The Coat" blog? yea...that one. Men can be so endearing. LOL
    3069 days ago
  • VXWALL1942
    Thoroughly enjoyed the blog. Goal setting.......hmmmm. What a novel idea. You mean I can PLAN to succeed by 'the book'? Think I'm gonna enjoy this. The surprises w/o goals have been sort of ho hum.

    Tell your husband he's a hoot! I have a husband like that. He's 76 going on 17.

    Happy New Year! I'm off to get my fiber.

    vicki emoticon
    3069 days ago
    Your husband sounds a lot like mine! :-)
    have a great week and a fabulous New Year.
    3069 days ago
  • TRINITY4001
    Loved this blog. Your husband's goal sounds exactly like what my husband would say...apparently age doesn't change that! (He will be 60 in a few days).

    Your post has inspired me to write about my goals in my blog.

    Here's my very first goal: I will go out and buy The Spark today! emoticon emoticon
    3069 days ago
  • 1972ROSES
    Blogged up? I would have been rolling on the floor too.

    Good for you on trying something new. Maybe it will make maintenance seem like less of a chore.

    Good Luck
    3069 days ago
    Men can be so supportive . . . . . . You know, deep down, he's thinking about this. The seeds have been planted!

    3069 days ago
    OMG I loved this! Your blogs are always so well written, entertaining and motivating. I love reading what you write always! thank you for sharing. Oh, and you have a pretty wonderful sense of humour yourself.
    3069 days ago
    Can't wait to read part 2.
    I have decided to break down my goals. I tend to want to have the goal- "lose 60 lbs". Instead I am starting with the simple easy to do and am going to define some small rewards on the way as I meet them.
    Thank you for the inspiration!!!
    3069 days ago
    Loved the blog. I think my husband has a similar sense of humor to yours. emoticon
    3070 days ago
    Funny- sounds like my hubby!
    3070 days ago
  • ERMAC22
    I laughed out loud at this post! Your husband is too funny :)

    I feel a bit the same way after the holidays and with the "new year" coming quickly. I've lost 40 pounds on my own, without any major goals, but I know that I really need to step it up again. I'm happy to have some running goals, but want to add some more holistic and fun goals too! I'm excited to read this and see your goals for the year! emoticon
    3070 days ago
    don't worry too much, everyone is different! just set your pwn pace and try to stick with it, we're here for you!
    3070 days ago
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