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DH's Birthday

Friday, December 18, 2009

DH doesn't like to celebrate his b'day - he says the years don't count if you ignore the birthday. Plus he likes to get all mopey and wallow in depression about how he hasn't achieved all the things he wanted to do as a young man (like publish the next great American novel).

So I didn't make a cake, I just made two small mugs of chocolate decadence (since I was making two cakes that I owed someone from an auction - this way we have portion control, just one serving each). And we didn't go out for a nice dinner, we went to a local place where he could have his beloved burger and I could have a nice piece of grilled fish. And we opened the box of Belgian chocolates a friend gave us (so I skipped my portion of decadence, we'll share that tonight). Kept it low-key. Let him take the lead.

I did buy flowers, which I brought home during lunchtime so they were on the table when he got home before me. He's insisting they're Chanukah flowers, not birthday flowers.

Sometimes I think it's just sad. Why can't he be more optimistic, look at the bright side? I mean, he's achieved a LOT! He's done a lot! He lived overseas, has travelled all over, is a great attorney and has been for 20+ years, he has a loving family (he's everyone's favorite crazy uncle), he has a loving wife - but for him, the cup is always half empty. (I'm the kind of person who doesn't care if it's half full or half empty - I'm just happy there's a glass and some water, LOL!)

Anyhow - hopefully he'll cheer up.

His new idea - let's both take early retirement, sell our worldly possessions, buy a van, and travel the Pan American highway - I guess from Alaska to Argentina. Which actually has it's appeal, I will admit. Before we get too old. Except I really wanted to drive across Africa. But this might be a good start.
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    Every blog you write is so interesting -- I love the ultramarine bowl and cup incident in particular -- but this one strikes a deep chord with me.

    We get to a certain age -- Maslow wrote about it -- and we are in serious danger of questioning whether we've accomplished all we should. Fulfilled that "early promise". And if not -- at serious risk of becoming despondent.

    I've been thinking a great deal about this myself. Not sure that for me escape is the answer: suspect that what would help me more is more engagement. But: have a serious dislike of "do-gooderism" also! Tend not to enjoy being around the self-righteous! (Or that's my excuse at the moment).
    3047 days ago
  • SAPNA.
    If you start early enough you could do both!
    3048 days ago
    That sounds like so much fun.
    3048 days ago
    do both.
    3049 days ago
    Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Except, if we could hold out for 4 years, I can retire without a penalty - meaning I'll get 68% of my salary, rather than 50% (or less) for retiring early.
    3050 days ago
    do both.
    3050 days ago
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