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Barely hanging in....

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

There are some days that I either don't want to get up or I want to just run away.
I took care of my Mom for two month after she was discharged from the hospital with lung cancer and it was no where near this hard. Yes, I know she was my Mom but it hurt me to she her in so much pain. This lady (mil) who is 94yrs old is capable of getting around and all. I really think she could make her own meals if she was at home too. But what she is really good at is complaining or getting mad because no one is listening to her. She rambles so much that you don't know if she is talking to you or herself. I really don't know how much longer I can do this......I need a break. DH mentioned to his brother the other night about taking her back for a couple of weeks and he said he can't he has to get the kitchen done. He has all kinds of excuses all of a sudden just so she stays here. In the beginning he said she had to be able to walk. Well he saw her take off, without her walker and he was shocked. So now it's the kitchen needs to be cleaned and whatever.
I mentioned to DH the other day that I know she is going to still be here for Thanksgiving and she'll want me to invite ED over for dinner. She'll say she'll buy everything already made up and we can have dinner here, it happened last year. The food wasn't that great, mines better, but I'm tired of making big dinners. Every day I make lunch and dinner.....DH does breakfast, which is nice.

I saw my nutritionist yesterday morning and she is happy with my progress. According to their scale I've lost 10lbs....I like mine better and she even said go with yours. I asked about stress keeping you from losing weight....yep it can. I have to get back to my old workout schedule and "me" time. I'm worried though because of all that is going on with me that I'm starting to lose interest in the things I loved. Every day I say to myself we are making a list and sticking to it and we're going to tell mom I have to do it. Then I wake up.................. emoticon
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  • REBECCAB4244
    Can you foresee getting her into an assisted living facility? I love doing the Thanksgiving dinner, but I understand where you are coming from.

    Besides responding to your Blog, what can we do to help you? emoticon
    4232 days ago
  • GRAM4FUN
    not sure if you are talking about your mom or someone else??? my mom had 6 months to live and she lived with us..not all days were easy but the rewards were great..i wouldn't change a thing about thoses 6 months..really miss her..they say that our roles get reversed as we get older where our parents are concerned..hope you can find some time for yourself to recharge

    SORRY DIDN'T MEAN TO SEND THIS TWICE:)
    4232 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/10/2009 7:56:19 PM
  • GRAM4FUN
    not sure if you are talking about your mom or someone else??? my mom had 6 months to live and she lived with us..not all days were easy but the rewards were great..i wouldn't change a thing about thoses 6 months..really miss her
    4232 days ago
  • KPACE7
    Having your kitchen redone is just a moment in a life that moves on no matter what. I'm having mine redone at the moment. We had everything torn out, my kitchen was a big dance hall with a few holes here and there. Parts of the house had no electricity of course and still doesn't. My nephew came for the weekend. We lived on pizza, chicken, tacos and take out. It has been two weeks, I still don't have a stove, the cabinets are half done, counters aren't in, just drawers. We are having a guest this weekend for deer season. People come and go, stay with us or not. Don't let the kitchen stop him from taking your MIL for awhile. She would actually enjoy the transition of the kitchen. Each day is a new experience.

    Getting your kitchen done is just part of life, people will work around it.

    Hang in there.
    4232 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/10/2009 7:47:02 PM
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