My life challenges

Friday, November 06, 2009

I don't like to whine about my problems, but I'm feeling like I need to open up about some challenges I'm dealing with in my life lately:
- Finances - pay cut and loss of income, some "bad" financial decisions, mounting credit card debt with increasing minimum payments and interest rates, medical bills, an adjustable mortgage we can no longer afford for a house we now owe more on than it's worth by about $50,000. We are losing ground each month, and bakruptcy and foreclosure may be in our future.
- Major family conflict and deteriorating relationships with my two teenage boys, even after a year of family counseling. This week I had a major clash with my 16-year-old son--an honor student who is a good kid but is extremely manipulative and arrogant toward me. He told me he doesn't respect me because I am too controlling and absusive with my "power" as a parent. On Thursday he left town for a 4-day trip with his high school band and wouldn't even say good-bye. He lost his cell phone the day before he left, so we have no way of communicating with him while he's gone.
- My sister-in-law is upset with me and I have no idea why--she won't speak to me. I called to wish her a happy birthday and she passed the phone immediately to her husband and wouldn't even say hello.
- Juggling crazy schedules between work and kids--long days and not enough sleep.
- My 1-1/2-year-old boxer dog has had problems with daily vomiting for over a year now, and we can't figure out why. Even on his special food (which is expensive!) he still vomits several times a day. We don't know what to do anymore to help him and are wondering if we need to give him up.

I'm trying to just take life one day at a time and not get too down. Some days are worse than others, and this week was a real doozie with all the tension between me and my son. I am a person of faith, and I know God will see me through this. Even with all these challenges, I know I still have a lot to be thankful for, and I am counting my blessings. I know things could be a lot worse!

One thing I am very thankful for is that in spite of all of the stress, I have NOT been eating emotionally. I even baked chocolate chip cookies and never even had one. I started going back to the gym again this week, and I think the exercise and "me time" is really helping with stress management. I really look forward to my workouts now.
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    I will be praying for miracles in every area of your life. Looks like you are a set up for God to show up BIG in your life. I pray our GOD of ALL strength and power will move on your behalf in a SUDDENLY kind of way. Peace in every circumstances is God's best for you and I pray that peace rules in your life like a umpire!
    3389 days ago
    Really really good that you are not eating when all of these things are going on. The control you are exercising there can carry over to other positive things.

    One comment on the money - try listening to Dave Ramsey, he's one of those no debt, all cash guru guys and is helpful for reorienting your thinking while you are still having the problem. Makes you look forward instead of being mired in it, he is on fox business on cable at 7pm central and he is somewhere on the radio. Hope all of it improves fast.
    3392 days ago
    Wow, good luck with the finances and other stresses. Good for you going to the gym and not eating chocolate chip cookies. Hang in there.

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    3393 days ago
  • FELICE73
    That me time sure does help. I haven't felt this good in a long time since I started going to the gym! Concentrate on you and everything around you will be better!

    I wish you luck on the homestead and luck with the boys (I still have a few years from the teen years, whew!)

    Your brother won't clue you in about your SIL?

    Dogs - don't go there with the vomiting (and pooping for mine for no reason!). I had to put down my yellow lab due to an ear infection that made her deaf - it was sooo hard and then one of my kitties (my first ever) had kidney failure so I had to put her down too. It is tough but sometimes it is best.

    I am SO PROUD of you for not stress eating! Prouder than you can imagine!

    Keep up your great work and let me know if you EVER need ANYTHING! Feel free to call on me!! Support, gab, anything!
    3393 days ago
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