When All is Said and Done

Sunday, October 18, 2009

The services are over, the flowers have been dispersed, a life has been celebrated.

The services yesterday were beautiful. One of my friends from work, a minister co-led the services with my usual minister. They did a beautiful job. Many people came and shared funny and poignant memories of mom. My neighbors from across the street got all the neighbors organized and led the caravan to the church. Family from all over came and it felt awesome to be surrounded by love and support.

My best friend and soul mate from Vt, Kevin, came down for the weekend and I can't begin to tell you how much I needed him here. He ran interference for me when needed and was a welcome source of strength, comfort, and support. We have always been there for each other. Kevin, who doesn't like tofu, even ate my Tofu Salsa Stew and declared it delicious and filling. He had planned to go to the store and get some turkey or something as he didn't think the stew would be enough until he ate it. It was nice to be able to focus on some mundane things like cooking for a loved one vs focus on sadness. Kevin and I took a long walk in the Fall foliage and talked before he had to leave today.

So...all is said and done. I am still feeling numb, like I am going through the motions. But I am putting one foot in front of the other. Kev made sure I ate, slept, and took care of myself this weekend.

Tomorrow I return to work and life goes on. Thanks everyone for the support.

This is Kevin.
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    I'm so pleased Kevin could be there for you at such an important time!

    Certainly understand feeling numb, but applaud your putting one foot ahead of the other.

    Take gentle care of yourself...

    4225 days ago
    I am glad you heard such good memories and stories about your mom. I know you will get through this as you know you will too. I'm really glad you got to spend such quality time with Kevin. He sounds like he is just what you needed to help you through. I'm glad you have someone like him in your life!

    4225 days ago
    I'm so glad that you made it. I'mm also glad that you were able to have such great support from friends, and especially Kevin. They really make a difference in times of need.

    With that, I'm just a computer away if you ever need to just talk.

    4226 days ago
    Oh, sweetie, I'm glad you made it through the day, and I'm glad you had the opportunity to hear so many wonderful stories and memories of your mother. The numbness is going to wear off, and it's going to be a tough period. I am always here, and if I can help you at all, just say the word. emoticon
    4226 days ago
    Kevin looks very nice. :) It's important to have good support. I'm glad you have someone to physically lean on. We're here to listen, of course, but it's nice to have someone in person.

    Out of curiosity, what kind of church do you attend?
    4226 days ago
    *waves at Kevin* Thank you for being there for our sweet Kerry!

    Hang in there girl...and we may not be Kevin, but we're here for you too sweetie!! *HUGS*
    4226 days ago
    i hope he can come see you more often and continue to be support for you!!
    4226 days ago
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    It's so wonderful to have such beautiful, lovely friends there to support you during this time. We're all thinking of you! emoticon
    4226 days ago
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    I’m glad you were surrounded by so much love and friendship. Keep taking care of yourself over the few months as life will seem so different for you.

    4226 days ago
    Kerry there is nothing like having that special friend who is always there to get us through life, especially the rough patches. Hugs for Kevin for being that special friend in your life.

    Now you have to find a new "normal". It takes time to fill that gaping hole in you life right now. Know that I am here for you and I am sending you strength to get through the days to come.
    Mom is at peace and now it is your time to find your own. Hugs, Cat =^..^=

    4226 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/18/2009 8:19:32 PM
    Thank God for the Kevins in our world, right? My deepest sympathy to you. I lost my mother almost 20 years ago. It's very hard, but time is a great healer. I'm so pleased you could share your sorrow with the Spark community too. That's what we are all here for.
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    Hang in there and keep taking care of yourself. Eventually you will be less numb.
    4226 days ago
    All I can do is give you virtual hugs, things will get easier. Be sure to take care of yourself! emoticon emoticon
    4227 days ago
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