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I have to Vent

Thursday, October 15, 2009

I woke up today feeling a little blah and a little blue - no particular reason, except that I'm in a bit of a plateau again, and -- I don't know, sometimes you just feel "blah" for no reason.

I live with my son and DIL and take care of my grandson when they're at work. My DIL must have woken up in a bad mood too.

- She got up, asked me what all the noise was about. (I got a pan out of the cupboard, and it did make some noise.)

- She criticized what I was eating for breakfast (an egg sandwich on whole wheat muffin, with low-fat canadian bacon and low-rat cheese). She said that obviously wasn't on my diet.

- she asked if I would mind if she took a shower.

- She asked me if I would mind telling her what I did with her big pan. I told her, oh, I put it in the - (and then my mind went blank, I wanted to say pantry, but couldn't think of the word). She told me I was acting like a retard and I should go to a doctor and see if I had Alzheimer's. (I wanted to reply that I would have my possible Alzheimer's checked out if she would have her possible bi-polar checked out, but in the interest of peace, I didn't say it.)

- At 10:15 a.m., she sent Dylan (my grandson) in to ask if I wanted a taco. I said, no thank you, and she said, "I knew it."

- At 11, she asked me if I would mind taking her casserole out of the oven at 11:30, as she and Miles had to leave for a parent-teacher conference. I just looked at her and she said, "please don't let it get ruined." I said, "well, did you put the timer on?" She said, "never mind, I'll take it out " so she took it out early!

- I lost my temper then and said, "what's wrong with you today?"

- 11:15, she said, "we're going to the parent-teacher conference. Do you mind if we leave Dylan here, or should I take him with us?" I just looked at her, and she flounced away.

- 11:20, she said, "we're going to the conference" and I said "have fun" and she said, "Yes, someone else will tell us what we're doing wrong in raising our son."

I'm a nervous wreck, sorry to lay all this on you, but I have to tell someone, and if I tell it to anyone in the family, it will just cause trouble. I hope I didn't sound too petty, but it all added up and got to me.

Thanks for listening. As soon as they get back, I'll go for my walk and walk off the tension.
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    Sorry i'm late with a ((((huggle))) for you. I hope things have gotten a bit better by now. I have had some issues with my daughter jumping at me and seems I can do no right, but then there are those moments where she says I love you Mom and gotta savor those times. Peace to you.
    3471 days ago
  • DEBANNE1124
    Venting is good.

    It's not you it's all her problem.
    Maybe she is pregnant.
    Try to ahve a good day.
    BTW what is Rat cheese? Is it good?
    3478 days ago
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    Well if your DIL doesn't have a pole up her butt today, I don't know what else it could be?!

    I am sorry that she's being a jerk and a very bad example to her child as well. Honesty, you are stronger than I, bc I would have called her snotty, bi-polar, line-crossing butt out. She had no respect for you what-so-ever and that is shameful!

    I hope you day goes by much better and never mind her nastiness...although easier said than done. I hope you enjoyed your egg sandwich, I love those...with a little pepper and seal salt, mmm. Reminds me to look for canadian bacon at my store, I don't think I've ever seen it before except at restaurants.
    3478 days ago
    I'm so sorry that you hare having such a bad day. I guess the question is - is she always like this? If not I'd guess you were right and she woke up on the wrong side of the bed. If she is always like this I think I would have to ignore everything that comes out of her mouth. If she mentions something not being on your diet you should point out that what you have been doing is working! Also I'm not sure when forgetting where you put a pan became a signal that you have Alzheimer's - cr@p that must mean I have it to since today I kept stumbling over what type of bowl I was looking for (can anyone say Tupperware?). Go for your walk, enjoy yourself and forget about today! Keep up the great work Linda!
    3478 days ago
    sorry to read about this, she sounds inconsiderate at best. personally I think sometimes trouble is better than nothing, if it clears the air. it also sounds like you could be putting up with a lot without saying anything about it, and getting resentful is no good for your mental wellbeing... but if its just her being herself and there's little likelihood of change, or of her being able to be more thoughtful if its pointed out to her how she is coming across, then you'll just have to put up with it - but then, all this is just my opinion and I'm hardly an expert, so take it with a grain of salt. and keep smiling!
    3478 days ago
    It's good that you went for a walk. Do you listen to music on your walks? I find that music can help motivate my walking especially when I am upset about something. I will say this, people will judge you and I have found especially when they know that you are engaged in weight loss. All of a sudden everything that goes in your mouth or you touch seems open for critcism. You just have to keep at it and not let those peoples judgments hold you back or stop your progress.

    Best of luck.
    3478 days ago
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