Lots of lemons lately, where is the lemonade???

Saturday, September 26, 2009

I haven't written a blog since July. I have thought about it several times, but just couldn't do it. I know it helps for me to write stuff down, so I am hoping this helps. I have to say the last few months have really sucked (sorry, no better way for me to put it right now). It took me FOREVER to finally lose 10 pounds, but I figured it took forever to come on, so it would take awhile to go off. But I have lost nothing since and actually gained back 4, of which I am trying to get back in sync and did lose a pound of the 4 this week. I am not changing my ticker symbol as I need some positive to look at.

My 83 year old father rear ended a car and totaled out his car, with minimal damage to the SUV he hit. No one was hurt, thank God, but my dad's arms were scraped up from the air bag (he is on a blood thinner, so they bleed easily) He said the car 'just appeared' in front of him after he went around the corner. I had already been thinking about having him take a senior driving course, but now this confirmed it. Then immediately following his accident I drove my parents to Colorado. My dad is soooooo crabby and he wasn't feeling well, so it was not an enjoyable trip, except for seeing all of my relatives there. Then shortly after that, another trip, but this time to Montana, again another crabby father, but wonderful seeing relatives. A few days after arriving home my mom called to say that dad wasn't responding and they were taking him by ambulance to the hospital. After many tests, they decided maybe he was having seizures, so he was put on an anti-seizure med and told he couldn't drive for 3 months - yeah, a reprieve for me taking his license away. My dad has now been driving, even if he wasn't supposed to. It isn't like I can take his license/keys away, as my mom's keys are still there and she doesn't like to drive that much anyway and is tired of driving him everywhere. I offer, but they don't want to inconvenience me and don't tell me everywhere they need to go. They have 'kind of' agreed to take the driving class, but mom wants me to wait until after her cataracts are removed......... It is so hard to be a parent to your parents!!!!!!!!!!!

And finally my 21 year old son was attacked and his skull had multiple fractures. He was briefly in intensive care, they did surgery to put in steel plates, the covering over the brain was not punctured (THANK GOD!!!!!!), and after a week letting mommy take care of him and then back to his own apartment, he is now back to work and doing really well. We now have probably a long wait as we deal with the legal end. He is really a good kid and has never caused me a problem, so to get this kind of call, really scared the crap out of us. I tell you to hug your kids, grand kids, who ever, as you never know what tomorrow brings. You may think you live a simple, boring life and you just never know what someone else has in store for you.

So, with all of that, I have not been on SP very much, my weight and eating right have been VERY low priorities. I tried last week to get back on schedule with eating/working out and as I said before, I did lose a pound, but overall, I have a long way to go. So today is another day and tomorrow is another day, and so on and so on, until I finally get this all figured out and learn to take better care of myself. It doesn't help that my husband always lets me know he doesn't like my weight. The other night he said "no wonder these pants keep falling off me, they are yours". Well, they weren't mine, but a pair of his that he had bought that were too big. He makes hurtful comments like that and then he wonders why I don't want to meet him in bed that night....

Well, as the saying goes 'When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade' and I am still trying to find the recipe for the lemonade, because I sure can't figure out how to make it otherwise.
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  • SHASTA11
    What a time you and your family have had. I'm am so glad your son is doing well.

    It probably is time both your parents stopped driving. We had to stop mom a few years ago. I just told her I didn't have much to do and would take her where she needed to go so we could have more time together. She wasn't happy, but we managed. I'm a pet sitter so if I'm working I still had the opportunity to take her out. She passed this past January. Had been going downhill for over a year.

    Please keep up with your program. It will help you deal better with the lemons if you are healthy.

    I'm here for you.

    emoticon Joan
    3062 days ago
    Sorry to hear about all the stuff that you have been dealing with lately. You have friends and support here so keep coming here. We are here for you!
    3131 days ago
    May God bless you. I, too, am having a problem with the lemons. This, too, will pass.
    3131 days ago
    Have you told your husband how hurtful his comments are and
    how they undermine your determination to continue losing?

    I imagine you are worried for the safety of your parents, and
    it puts you on the spot for making sure they are safe. Maybe
    a word with the driving course instructor??

    So thankful your son came thru his ordeal so well. Keep us

    3131 days ago
    So sorry to hear all of the lemons coming your way. Try to find the positive in your situations and good stuff will come your way. You have to have some bad things happen, otherwise, you wouldn't really appreciate the good stuff. I think you've paid your dues for awhile.

    Take care!
    3132 days ago
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