#87: Self-Talk For Success

Thursday, September 24, 2009

I often think of Jim, a friend for several decades, who is the most positive guy I know. I've learned to catch myself as I am about to say "If I can..." and immediately change it to "When I..."

I think one reason we have remained friends over the years and the 1,700 miles that separate us is because we're both positive people. He for sure. Me generally. Another reason is our shared sense of humor.

Whether or not you believe in astrology, it has helped me many times when I've needed a pep talk. You see, I'm a Gemini, the sign of the twins, one positive and one negative. Add to that I've got O-negative blood.

One day as Jim and I talked, he remarked that I didn't seem my usual cheery self. Without thinking of any deeper meaning behind my answer, I jokingly replied by telling him that every morning when I get up and often throughout the days I have two negative strikes against me that I have to overcome in order to get in a good mood.

The first is the negative Gemini twin Skippy, my name for him. The second is the fact that at all times I have negative corpuscles streaming through my veins and arteries.

For some reason, just the image of those two negatives makes us laugh. But it's true. Every day when I want to exercise or continue on for a few extra minutes on the treadmill or to do a few more push ups, Skippy is right there telling me I'll never make it and to go ahead and stop, that I'm tired, my muscles hurt or that I can do it another time. He then reminds me that he is only one negative strike I need to deal with.

For those of you wondering about my talking to myself, the famous motivational speaker Zig Ziglar often says he does not believe it is wrong to talk to ourself. Nor does he see a problem with answering ourself back. The problem, in his humorous opinion, is when we talk to ourselves, answer ourselves, then ask, "Huh?" because we weren't paying attention to ourself. :)

Do you have a Skippy in your life, or those pesky negative corpuscles floating around inside of you?

Well, do what I do and tell them that in math two negatives equal a positive and therefore they have no influence over me, that I'm just going to make those negative corpuscles work harder to show Skippy who's boss. Then I break into a faster jog on the treadmill or find an energy reserve to pump out a few more push ups, telling my alter-ego that "I'll show you!"

What is the Skippy in your life? What is he or she telling you when you eat or when you exercise? Are you listening to the negative voice in your head that says you will not be able to make it, that you'll fail?

Or do you take them on full bore straightaway and show them who's boss?

Here's to an extra push up or two.
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  • LINDA25427
    I know what you mean Missy sometimes when everybody is getting ready for church and you can't find something that you know you laid out or put a certain place and that little voice creeps in saying forget going to church stay home you don't hardly ever miss a sunday I say or more like scream Satan leave me alone I'll go to church without it but Im going to church . Things seem to be better for the sheer reason that I put God and going to church first . Thank you for sharing . God bless you and your loved ones . emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 9/24/2009 10:57:39 PM
    The only weapon I have against deception is truth. I remind those negative inclinations that I choose to believe the report of the Lord who says (hold onto your hat here) I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me!

    4221 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    The Devil may sit on my shoulder at times, but with The Lord in my Heart, I CAN be victorious over this and become a Healthy Individual!

    4221 days ago
    Great blog! I have a skippy, unnamed, he sits inside my head telling me that its hopeless to go out jogging, hopeless to watch my calories, that it won't work...on and on, a continual stream of negativity. So I just do like you do and take a few extra laps. Then the angel on my left shoulder praises me for a job well done and says "Relax, you're done for the day!" Loved your blog.
    4221 days ago
    I understand what you are saying Lou, but I don't get why you would name your negative voice skippy. Skippy sounds like someone happy and skipping alone in life-a positive person. What did you name your positive voice?

    I have 0 negative blood too. I don't look at that in a negative way, I see it that we are rare. LOL To me rare is good. So tell Skippy "Shut up!" LOL

    Personally I believe all of us have some mental challenges going on , some more than others ....if someone says they have no negative thoughts ever then I think to myself , " they are in denial or they are out of touch with their self"....now that I have said that I am sure I am going to be unpopular for my opinions with many. Oh, well I don't concern myself with being popular....I try to stay honest and if I have offended anyone I didn't mean to.

    The challenge is not listening to the negative side, but listening to the positive side like you suggested. When a negative voice pops ups we need to challenge it with a positive thought and hold on to that positive thought . It is like having too friends , one giving you bad advice and the other giving you good advice. Which advice you accept is up to you.

    Sometimes when your voice is telling you to stop or rest it is really good advice. Sometimes we need to rest , sometimes we need to push on . Most of the time I don't know when I am overdoing it till I have overdone it , but if I will make a mental note of it then I can learn something from it.

    Have a super day negative o blood . I really enjoyed reading this. O negative Joy

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    Comment edited on: 9/24/2009 4:02:31 PM
  • no profile photo CD4243811
    thanks for that... after my negativity in my final stretch of my ride yesterday i needed something like this.... i just gotta remember... 2 negatives equal a positive.
    4221 days ago
    Yesterday Skipette was telling me to buy those doughnuts but I told her "NOT TODAY!"...LOL and I didn't!!
    4221 days ago
    I don't think there is a Skippy in my life, although I do have A negative blood...hmmmm....oh, and I talk to myself (and answer myself) rather frequently.
    4221 days ago
    Cute blog!!
    No Skippy here, but I do talk to myself. lol
    4221 days ago
    Self talk changes the way we think and the Bible tells us that changing our thinking is the way to change how we feel...those pesky darn emotions. I am a big believer in self talk, and I love the way you illustrated it, Lou. That said, I'm going to have to really think about what is the skippy in my life. One thing I do know: prayer is my greatest tool for defeating the negative voice.

    Thanks for a great post, Lou.
    4221 days ago
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