#78: Status Quo or Bust?

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Are you motivated to lose weight and gain better health? What if you were told that motivation isn't enough to ensure substantial change?

In today's Psychology Today magazine author Robert Wicks explains why this may be so.

"One of the primary reasons that motivation, of itself, does not automatically lead to change is that we fear that the demands involved may be too costly. We may have to see our own role in the problems we are having and do something about it.

"In addition, we worry about how other people will react when our behavior patterns change; the move toward health can be also surprisingly upsetting to those who are used to "the devil they know" (a person's usual defensive style.) They may even feel challenged to change and they might be uncomfortable in dealing with this.

"Finally, seeing our own role in our problems does cause some negative reflection about the past and how much time we have wasted in behaving as we have.

"...the "advantages" of staying the same are very costly...

"...two ways we can improve our own self-awareness are by increasing our sensitivity to our defensiveness, and by taking what actions we can to outflank our resistances."

In other words, we need to acknowledge what is holding us back from success and figure out ways to change our thinking and our behaviors.

To me this means we must admit to ourselves that the life we have led to this point is not one we're happy with. Then we must admit that we want to change. Finally, we must take decisive action to alter what we are currently are -- overweight, out of shape and, often, disgusted with ourselves.

These may seem to be pretty blunt words but sometimes we (I include myself here) have to be shocked into opening our eyes to the unhappy, unsatisfied, unfulfilled person we have become.

But, remember, motivation is not always enough. We may need to spend time giving thought to how we got in the condition we're in today. Is our overeating due to an unfilled emotional need? is our lack of exercise due to a fear of losing friends who become defensive about being the overweight, out of shape one if we succeed?

It appears that merely wanting a change requires some analysis of our lives to-date. Often that is painful. But it may be the kick in the pants we need to finally embark on a true journey to fitness.
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  • no profile photo CD5002230
    These kinds of changes do not come without a fight. Hard truths must be faced and behavior must be corrected.

    I could not do it without help. I am actively taking God at His Word and believing that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

    It is a slow but sure process.

    I love your blogs very much indeed.
    4233 days ago
  • HOLLY1949
    Wow! I enjoyed your blog, and I enjoyed reading the comments to it. Double pleasure! You always seem to hit the nail on the head for what we need. Thank You! Holly
    4233 days ago
    It makes sense to me, thanks for posting.
    4234 days ago

    When we are lacking in determination or discipline ...first thing to check is your desire. If your desire is weak , so will be your determination and discipline. In that case you must stir up your passion for your goal.

    If desire is good, and you don't seem to be able to stick to your goals because your determination is weak ....you need to build up your self confidence by taking baby steps that are easy to build up your success record so you can believe that you can do it. Like Henry Ford said, "If you believe you can-you can, and if you believe you can't -your right. Self confidence is like a muscle , it gets bigger and stronger with each success. If you are having problems with discipline, check your determination to see if it is weak and work on building up your self confidence.

    Discipline...my problem , I think because I need to build up my self confidence. But if your self confidence is good then check did see if you are losing sight of your focus. You must keep your eye on your target to maintain discipline.

    This is what I woke up thinking about, it seems our minds were on the same page. Have a wonderful day! Joy
    4234 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/15/2009 7:20:51 AM
    how very true. thank you for posting
    love Angela emoticon
    4234 days ago
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