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Sometimes the elderly make very insensitive comments

Tuesday, September 08, 2009

emoticonI'm still trying to figure why a number (not all---- please be patient and don't misunderstand me) of elderly people just blurt out whatever comes into their head. An elderly lady who I haven't seen in a while- felt it was her responsibility to say in front of other people "my you've put on weight". Needless to say I remained respectful---- but I was not pleased. Should I assume she was never sensitive in her younger years--- or is this a part of getting older emoticon
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  • SJACQUITA
    Hello and thanks for adding me as a friend. I have done the same. Now, speaking from the perspective of someone with an 83 year old grandmother, I don't really know if the elderly are being insensitive or if it's just the environment they grew up in. My grandmother is one of the sweetest people I know - she is always giving to others, not just her money, but her time and talent (she's an excellent cook); that being said, she has hurt my feelings more than a few times with remarks I really don't think she felt were hurtful, but they cut me deep. I've not always been my current size, but I've been bigger than my peers since I was 9 year old. Growing up in a good Christian home, we always purchased new outfits for Easter. One particular Easter, I thought I'd found an outfit that looked good on me and I felt very confident and beautiful in it, but, in the presence of our family and friends (there was a small crowd) she says to me "Kita, you need to do something with yourself so you can buy you some clothes that look like something." That's been over 15 years ago, but I remember it like it was yesterday. I was mortified and promptly left the room to keep from crying in front of everyone. My grandmother questioned why I left so abruptly and my mother told her that I was probably in the bathroom crying (which I was). My grandmother apologized to me, but she really did not understand why I was so upset. Over the years, I've come to realize that it's just her way. I honestly do not believe she thought what she'd said was hurtful, so I just learned to let it roll off my back like water on a duck. Yes, it stings sometimes, but she's 83 nearing 84 years old. She's not going to change, so I have to take the initiative and let it go.

    Peace and blessings, Kita


    3742 days ago
  • MHAYDEN
    Old people are just grumpy because they're almost dead. You should have retorted back..."Wow, thanks. Good thing I have many years left of my life to come to get myself healthy. Gosh...you haven't changed a bit since I last saw you...you still just look really old". hahahah emoticon
    3751 days ago
  • DIDDIX
    LOL I am done!!! emoticon
    3861 days ago
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