Rrr... Issues

Saturday, September 05, 2009

This morning, we woke up and wanted to make some breakfast. I made some delicious zucchini and tomato egg scramble, and my girlfriend made the hashbrowns. We normally don't make hashbrowns, so I was SHOCKED when I looked over and she was pouring olive oil all over those little potatoes. :-(

I tried to put them on a paper towel, so that the oil wouldn't be on there so much, but she got so upset with me. Yelling because she didn't want paper towel in her hashbrowns, and how this nutrition/health thing has become excessive. So no paper towel, just greasy hashbrowns.

This whole thing is really hard on me, and our relationship. It's just that I don't want to continue to be overweight, and unhealthy. I'm trying not to pressure her to do anything with me, but I feel like I can't make healthy choices without making her feel guilty. Does that make any sense? Like in this situation, things escalated so quickly, there's no way I could say, "Sorry hon, but if I eat these potatoes, I won't be able to eat anything else all day."

Uggh, just venting. I'm sure we'll work out something that will work for us soon. I'm going to go get my hair cut.
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    It may be time (when things are quiet & you are not preparing food) to sit down and have a heart to heart with her about your desire to be healthy. Also, allow her to express her feelings. she may not like the changes, how will it affect your relationship, etc. And then you can set some boundaries about meals. And keep talking to each other! Good luck!
    3489 days ago
    Hey, it's tough working these things out. My husband never needed to lose weight, but he at least was supportive of my efforts and ate "Weight Watchers recipes" without complaining. Thirty years later, he has cardiac problems and needs to lose weight, so we're both doing this together. Makes it so much easier!

    All those years when he WASN'T on board, I found that I just had to take the view that I'd eat what I needed to eat and if he wanted to drown something in oil I'd just skip eating that. No fights!

    If she thinks your efforts are excessive, maybe she is reacting a bit strongly because she knows in her heart that SHE needs to eat more healthfully. Does she need to lose a few pounds?

    I commend your efforts and you know you will reap the rewards with a more healthy body!
    3489 days ago
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