Have you lost weight?

Saturday, September 05, 2009

Have you lost weight?

It's funny how this question, depending on the tone it's said in, can make you feel so different: elated, or speechless.

Yesterday I went to my favourite makeup counter to pick up a new nail polish, and the lovely Counter Manager asked me "Have you lost weight?". She said it in a surprised tone. Her question was almost rhetorical, actually meaning "I can see that you've lost weight. WOW!"
This is how I like this question to be asked, because it leaves me happy, pleased that someone has noticed, and glad that my efforts have shown results.

Today on the other hand, I met with a friend that I hadn't seen since April (kinda had a fall-out with her, but that's another story) and she knows I'm on this Spark diet.
We met to check out this little recycling shop in our neighborhood, and on our way home, we stopped at the supermarket to get some groceries. As usual, I started reading nutrition labels, and she asked me " Are you still on that diet". I answered "yes". Then she said: "And, have you lost weight?". She was actually asking, wondering, if I had had any results!!!
I was speechless, and I think I stared at her, blankly, for at least 30 seconds.
I couldn't believe that she, a woman who notices EVERYTHING, didn't see the difference. I lost 22 pounds, for Pete's sake!!
When she saw my confused, blank expression, she tried to make up for it, but it was too late, the damage was done (LOL).

I sincerely hope that the next time someone asks me if I've lost weight, it's in the "WOW! Great job!" tone. I honestly don't want to experience today's feelings again.

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    Oh my gosh, have you lost weight?
    You look FABULOUS! :)
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    3181 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/8/2009 1:19:54 PM
  • _VALEO_
    Une brindille japonaise ? Quoi que la goujaterie, tout comme la stupidité, soit universellement répandue.

    Je crois que j'aurais été vexée comme un pou, et comme toi sans réaction.
    Au moins, maintenant, tu sais à quoi t'en tenir avec elle -si tu ne le savais pas avant.
    3181 days ago
    Of course she noticed, she just wanted to be be nasty. I can see thru her like glass.

    Women are notorious for being brutal to one another, it's the same old story.
    3182 days ago
    It can be very hurtful when people make comments like your friend did. It's hard when you are trying to be healthy and people don't understand. As you get closer to your goal, you will have people saying stuff like, "you don't need to loose more weight" or "stop losing weight"'s hard. You want to be the healthiest you, you can be and they are not supportive. I also get "are you feeling well?"", because I have lost weight and many people associate weight loss with illness. So then, I wonder do I look sick, cause I feel great. I thought I was looking good. I think people are really concerned but it is hurtfull. Hang in there! You are the best judge or how you feel! Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon
    3184 days ago
    I like when people notice as well, but if they don't, oh well. I am doing this for myself and have convinced myself that my health is the most important thing. I also say the same thing that OrganicBeauty does when people ask if I am on a diet. I always say, "No, I am just watching what I eat and exercising more."

    Congrats on your weight loss!
    3184 days ago
    Don't let the negativity of others bring you down...Use that as fuel to press harder on this lifestyle journey...then the next time they see you, it will definately be the WOW, you've lost weight (in a good way, of course). Keep on keepin' on girlie, you are doing wonderful!!!!!
    3184 days ago
  • SD1122
    She probably noticed.....but was too jealous to admit it! I totally agree with Alicia. People get used to certain friends being the "fat girl" so when they're no longer in that role, those "friends" have a hard time dealing b/c it always made them feel skinnier. Sad but true.

    Keep up the amazing work! You're doing an awesome job!
    3184 days ago
    That was rude. Honey sometimes people say things without thinking or? Out of spite. You keep reading those labels... even random people walking by me?
    Will roll their eyes when they see me reading the label.

    It is not a diet. It is a lifestyle change, and you are going to look fabulous!!!
    I think some friends get used to one being the fat girl and hwen we are on our way down?
    Jealousy comes in to play.
    When I 'brag' or get excited about my 4 miles. I get the look like... yeah big deal.*eye roll* I am proud of myself!!

    No matter...
    you are doing this to be your personal BEST!!!!!!!!
    Keep it up!!!!!!!
    Ignore those rude remarks!!!!!!!!
    Big hugs mama!!
    You are awesome!!!
    3184 days ago
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