Thursday, August 20, 2009

Gaining weight is a personal affliction, in which "the cause" can vary from person to person. The good news is, there is a cause and cure for this....

Many of us have often reflected on our own personal weight problem, only to come out even more confused by our findings. We tell ourselves, "I've tried to lose weight, but I just can't do it!" Then, we repeat this statement over and over again, as we try anxiously to console our inner pain!!! Self denial is a smooth operator, although it does have its benefits. It helps us forget our wants and desires, temporarily, and allows us to cope with the everyday disappointments in our lives. Accepting self denial is mistake number one, as we try to make POSITIVE CHANGES.


On the other hand, negativity also breeds negativity, so when we tell ourselves that we can't do something, we actually believe it. Can't is a very powerful word! In reality, there's not much we can't accomplish, unless we don't want to learn the particular trade or skill involved to do so. We CAN make POSITIVE CHANGES if we really want to. It's mind over matter, essentially. In order to make the change, we have to remain focused on the main objective, sometimes forcing ourselves to experience the uncomfortable feeling or "unfamiliar-ness" that may be involved in the beginning.

Out of FEAR... WE FAIL ourselves!

And after much soul searching, I have come to realize, and I'm comfortable admitting, "I have failed myself many times," but that does not make ME, or MY LIFE, a failure! I have failed myself because of a situation, a deed, or a human error, if you will, but there are still plenty of opportunities for change in my life, and for personal growth.

The first step in making that change is SELF FORGIVENESS!

We must learn to forgive ourselves for the many times we've fallen. When we are at PEACE within ourselves, our SPIRITS SOAR, and our hearts are open to new challenges. In effect, we are able to stay focused, and remain OPTIMISTIC about our endeavors, as we watch our dreams become realities!

To make my journey to "health and freedom" much easier, I have decided to start a **NEGATIVE ENERGY DIET!!**

During this time, I will continue to learn the art of SELF FORGIVENESS, to remain as POSITIVE as I possibly can, and to stop allowing fear to dictate who I am!!!

(Can't... is no longer an option for me!)

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    Very well said.
    4167 days ago
    Good for you!
    4171 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4228914
    In my own personal realm, I realized the things you spoke of. I knew that I could do what I've done and am continuing to do. I needed a catalyst...an ingnitor.

    Coming to the realization that I was a cumulative product of the decisions I made up to the point in time that I was feeling so lousy helped me to ignite my own personal motivation to begin to do the things I needed to do to return to good physical health. As the physical health improved, it dragged the mental right along with it.

    There was no room for negative energy.

    I knew that I needed to develop and follow a plan to realize the thing I wanted most and that was to feel good again. I started putting that plan together in September 2007. I began to slowly act on it in October 2007 by changing my nutrition and quitting massive consumption of alcohol.

    Following that plan and implementing changes based on the results of the plan has me growing both physically and mentally. As I was able to do things physically, I increased the intensity and duration to continue to challenge myself and grow.

    What I have become and who I am now is a cumulative product of the plan and decisions I made back in September 2007. Following my plan and being dedicated to one goal...to feel good again never had me looking back.

    As I sit here at my desk and look at the picture of my dearest sitting on top of the desk, her request of me to "go back to the gym and get into shape" was the flame that flickered in my soul and above all else held me until I was ready to accept her death, and accept responsibility for who I was then. What happened to me was nobody's fault. What happened to me didn't happen by accident. It was a direct and cumulative result of the poor decisions I made over the course of a couple of years.

    Dedicating myself to learning about nutrition and maintaining an exercise plan pulled me from the depths of wishing for death and now has me with a zeal for life and all it has to offer.

    There is no room for negative energy. I see it all around me. People see me show up for work and I'm smiling...almost glowing. They ask me what I'm on. I just smile and go about my assigned duties knowing that I am able and capable of dealing with whatever is tossed my way.

    Stay out of the negative energy Julie...when you look back, you too will see it as a learning experience and others will look to you for guidance and strength...and some might just downright envy you, but however it comes, you will have the strength to deal with it because you are physically and mentally healthy!

    4174 days ago
    Very well said indeed!
    4174 days ago
  • ZENXB!
    Bill Gates once said “Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose.”

    I used to have this quote on my desk at work, but think I will add it to my Spark page. It used to remind me that when I mess up at work (and now in my current weight loss process) it is not only OK, but potentially GOOD!

    Continue to learn, but making your self vulnerable to change! AND ENJOY THE PROCESS!
    4174 days ago
  • MELA1953
    Well said!!!! What you have relayed is basically what my self-hypnosis cds on weight-loss and self-love say! I listen to them everyday and then I look into a mirror and tell myself (out loud) that I am worth the effort I am making right now!
    Thank you for putting it into words!
    4174 days ago
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