Privacy and Damage Control
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Long post sorry!
I changed my sparkpage to private that means if you are reading this you are a friend and I trust you. Because of the nature of what I do at work I am inherently untrusting. I don't believe or trust people mostly and if I do extend trust all it takes is pretty much one betrayal and we are done. That was the old version of myself ...this version of myself forgives ...my memory is so bad nowadays I tend to forget faster than I forgive. My boys have also taught me forgiveness ..I have a very healthy patience so I can wait for a long time (certain things I have issues with mostly I can wait.)
When a friend of mine told me about sparkpeople I came here thinking ...wowo this is overwhelming how would anyone get anything out of this site. Yet the more I use I feel free to post whatever I want. I now realize though that these thoughts and feeling I post on SP are not private ..they are not even limited to people on sparkpeople. If you have a nickname or you can be found from google and then you are not necessarily just sharing with friends.
I found out through a friend that my s2bx has a facebook page ...she never had one before and I didnt know she had one now ...the fact that both of us are tired to the same friend ...well frankly it scares me. My facebook is tied to my sparkpage ..I am disabling that today. I do not want her to read my blogs ...follow my sparkteams ...read my status. I have a feeling she wouldnt look - hell she may even know I have one but doesnt even care. But I feel like because its there either I have to censor myself or hide ...I think in either case she is winning because I am now jaded.
If I may let me turn the tables around ...lets say you have someone you work with on facebook ..they see you post status on sparkpeople but dont know your nickname. They dig a little and see everyone by default is on there state sparkteam and you live in Florida ...huge state right? lets say they also know you have just started running and you have talked about c25k on your status ...If your obsessed even you can look at every member of that team until you find who your looking for it wouldnt take long to find you.
Now every single post you have made is available because by default your sparkpage is set to public. Not to mention if they know your nickname ...This is not to scare anyone but to explain why I have switched to private.
I do not know if or when I will switch back to public. If I do I feel like I should delete old blogs ...if my s2bx read them I think she would take issue with them. Since they are my POV and my opinion.