Okay, so I just read the article "The Healthy Lifestyle Path
The Start of the Journey" (at www.sparkpeople.com/reso
) and this really stopped me in my tracks! Why? Because as any parent knows, kids start to demand control in their lives around 1-2 years old. What do you think happens when they are not allowed to take control? When parents make all their choices for them? When they are told, even at this early age, that they CANNOT have any control in their life? Then they learn, from the earliest years of their life, that they do not have control of their life. That they don't have ANY CHOICES and that they must rely on EXTERNAL controls to determine their path in life.
Honestly, let's look at our own childhood or the childhood we are created (or created) for our children. Were we allowed to make choices of what we wanted to do, where we wanted to go, how we wanted to play? Or did our parents make these choices for us, stressing obedience above all things? How, then, does one overcome a LIFETIME of relying on external controls to actually REALIZE that we have choices, that we CONTROL our future?
I know that as a mom, allowing my son to have choices from his earliest years (and yes, some parents have mocked for this), will allow him to grow up realizing that he has choices throughout his life; that his choices have consequences. I just never made the connection that by allowing him choices now will allow him to realize he can choose his health and lifestyle, too!
I know that for me, choices were not much of an option growing up. I think this may be why so many of us have difficulties with taking control of our life and making the changes - it's not how we were raised. How many have relied on external controls (like diet pills, meal plan based organizations like Jenny Craig, etc.) to try to change, only to find that they don't work? Why? Because we're NOT IN CONTROL. And to have a healthy, successful life, this is the first thing we must come to realize - WE HAVE CHOICES. WE ARE IN CONTROL.
This is why it takes small steps - it's a lifetime of programming we have to overcome - and we can do it one step at a time. Work on one facet of our life that we have control over, and once you realize that you really DO have control and can choose, then work on the next facet...then the next...then the next, until you truly realize that you have choices in your life, that YOU have control, not someone else or something else. YOU.
So take control and choose for yourself the life you want to live!