Divorced Dad part 1
Wednesday, July 01, 2009
"Being a divorced dad means your are not Mr Mom it means you are Dad."
I believe I felt I was a bad father. The routine of me coming home everyday after work with no real down time and seeing the boys hurt my relationship with them. I considered it job part 2. I even said many times how I felt like I was a bad father. I was very short with them and I have alot of patience. Looking back I feel like I was trying to control them the way I was controlled. I tried to be a surrogate mom and not even let them be boys. I felt restrained on spending money on them.
Don't get me wrong - The s2bx is a good mom I think and I hope she finds a spouse that compliments her feelings, desires, her life. I don't wish ill for her and I don't speak ill of her to the boys ...I re-enforce respect and obey every chance I get with them.
But for me, now, things have changed. I KNOW I am a good dad. They tell me they love me and they ask about Mojo. One day they will meet my girlfriend and akira then my life will be complete. I believe now I have more fun with them and I miss them horribly when they are gone. When I am with them I let them be the boys they are and my girlfriend smiles. I am no longer playing Mr. Mom ---I am Dad.