Does One Laugh or Cry?

Saturday, June 20, 2009

I've have spent the majority of my life trying to make friends and keeping them. Most end up of making some strong bonds with each other and I end up being the one with her face pressed against the window looking in and wishing I too could be one of them. It never happens but I keep trying!

For the 3 years I've been meeting with a group of mothers of of kids that my son graduated with in 2006. The kids are still very close and had felt that I was creating a bond with them. I should of known when I kept hearing conversations of things that had been happening that others already knew that the others had created a much stronger bond that did not include me. I kept plugging away HOPING that I would eventually be accepted as the rest had been. I have finally accepted that it won't happen especially as I have out and out been lied to when I tried to express my feelings in an email to them this past week.

I've cried a few times over this. Railed over it. And cried some more and sometime came to the conclusion that if I have to fight to be accepted it's not worth it. I want to be accepted because of WHO I am not because of who my son is! Also I do not want to harm in any way the relationship they have with my son. The two relationships are totally separate and it's up to Kevin to decide how he wants to deal with them from today on not me!

I have FOUR graduation parties today and my girlfriend is going with me as my husband is out of town for the weekend. She has been there for me for 15 years! No matter what, no matter the situation she has ALWAYS be there! I may not have many friends but the ones I do have STICK and are long standing and solid!

I have decided to LAUGH today and swim in the kind and laughter of Sue's friendship! It's been steady and wonderful and I couldn't ask for a bonding that was stronger or more enduring!
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    From my Brownie days, I recall a song we would do around campfires--"Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold." Cherish that golden friendship that you have. As you establish the silver ones, some of these may turn out to be golden under the silver. Best wishes always.
    3744 days ago
  • WALNUT5612
    Stick to the friends that work for you!!!
    3765 days ago
    Norma you are absolutely right that if you have to fight to have a friendship it isn't worth having. Good for you and Sue. We need close people such as this. Good for you at being so insightful of yourself and these relationships. Its very empowering to have that kind of knowledge about yourself and others. Yeah!!
    3767 days ago
    I agree with everything you wrote. It is certainly the truth. Cherish your friendship with Sue and the others--don't fret about them. Remember the old saying, what goes around comes around. In other words, they will reap what that have sown. They are the loosers and you are a winner. It is hard to accept at times but I've been there and know that is the truth. Laughing about things burns calories too and you don't get the red-eye, red face look either. (((HUGS))) to a great friend, Linda Kay
    3767 days ago
    It took me a long time to learn the hard lesson that you can't be friends with everyone. A few really good friends beat a huge number of acquaintances any day.

    PS Laughing beats crying too - I'd go for that.
    3768 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/21/2009 4:45:47 AM
  • NANCY1204
    I know how you feel. emoticon But, you are blessed with your friendship to Sue emoticon
    3768 days ago
    Hi Norma! Jenni is right! You have a great supportive friend, cherish her, and don't worry about the others. They aren't worth struggling for a friendship that won't be. You're a wonderful person, and it's their loss. Have a great time at your parties with Sue!

    Best wishes,
    3768 days ago
  • JENNIW70
    Norma, you hit the nail on the head -- it's not worth it if you have to fight and struggle to be accepted. I know. I struggle with that too. On the other hand, the Lord has blessed you with a wonderful supportive friend who does accept you for Who you Are. What a blessing! Jenni, CWF team
    3769 days ago
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