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I Lost a Friend Today

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Leo was 60 years old and died this morning as a result of the injuries he sustained from a car accident he was involved in this past Friday. He leaves behind a wife, two grown children and two grandchildren that he and his wife are raising.

As a pastor's wife, I'm not unfamiliar with death. I can't count the number of deaths I've helped congregations work through. But I'm writing this with tears in my eyes and an ache in my heart.

I think it's because Leo was only a few years older than me and 2 years younger than my Beloved. I realize my vulnerability. I also think its because the future has become so uncertain for his wife, Sam, and grandchildren. The first thing Sam said when she saw my Beloved was, "What will I do without him?" Long Island is an expensive place to live. Will she be able to keep the house, retain custody of the children, and help her daughter deal with her drug dependence without a solid partner beside her??

Only God knows and I guess I should leave it there. But I can't help but wonder.
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  • STEVIECAT4
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    3549 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/24/2010 1:43:16 PM
  • CANDIHEARTS
    i am sorry for your loss. my deepest prayers will be for his loved ones. just know he is in a better place. i lost my dad to strokes[many, many, many] of them. they toke a piece of him each time he had one. he went to be with our heavenly father 12-29-08 leaving a very devoted wife of 48 yrs who took care of him til the end and 4out of 5 grown children 8 grandchildren 2 great-grandchildren. he is very much missed. your fried leo will be missed. i'll light a candle for him. God's Blessings to you. emoticon
    3807 days ago
  • RAGAMUFFIN1
    The Lord promises not to give us more than we can handle. I trust and believe in faith that God will use this situation to help the family depend more on Him and draw close to Him.
    3808 days ago
  • GONNAGETGOAL
    Sorry about your lose.
    Take things one day at a time.
    3808 days ago
  • CT1954
    Although you aren't unfamiliar with death, it's natural to lament a loved one/friend. Be comforted with the knowledge that "All things work together for the good of those that love the Lord and are called according to his purposes" even the death of a loved one. He said He will never leave us or forsake us. God will provide comfort and support for your friends wife.
    3808 days ago
  • CHARLIESANGEL10
    I am so sorry & am sending prayers. I've been dealing with feeling vulnerable for a little over 2 years now---I almost died during my pregnancy & now realize all along my life has been in God's hands; I just had the illusion that I had more control than what any of us really have. When I thought about it, I realized I had felt comfortable assuming I had a certain amount of time to be alive coming to me. I feel like my eyes have been opened--I am in gratitude & at the same time the thought of mortality gives me a little shiver when I hear of things like you are dealing with---& I have to believe we will be given comfort when trials come upon us & that God will put people & help into my life when I have lost ones I love. When I heard of a friend's child's death, my own heart was so heavy & it reminded me again of how precious our moments are & it reminded me of that phrase in the bible, that says, "though 10,000 fall at my side I will not fear"--I really don't know that my heart would be able to stand such if taken literally...the one comfort I was able to find that helps me when I feel vulnerable is remembering we will be together for eternity & that at one point it will feel as if time passes in the equivalent of the blink of an eye. My intention was to offer you any words that may help you with the emotions---I hope you will find peace soon over this...I never waste a minute these days & I hug my hubby & toddlers really tight, now I'm crying too. Hugs.
    3808 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/10/2009 9:56:53 PM
  • MARVEL-LOSS
    A friend can't help but wonder, reach out, and pray for a good future for the family. It amazes me the number of folks that are raising grandchildren and trying to help their children survive once caught in the drug habit. My heart goes out to you and the family. I wish them peace.
    3808 days ago
  • MELISSA5824
    sorry to hear about the loss of your good friend. my thoughts and prayers are with you and with his family at this time of need. have a wonderful day.
    3808 days ago
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