What do YOU do with your "stuff"?

Monday, June 01, 2009

After all of the emotional things that happen when a loved one dies (my step-dad) you would think that "things" would get easier. Let me give you a clue, they don't!

You can take a day to rest, but then the hard part begins. A person can't live in two places at once, so you have to get the house ready to sell.

My step-dad kept ANYTHING and everything of my mothers, except her clothes. All the knic-knacks that 74 years and two marriages allow you to accumulate are stored away or still on display. Then there is all the stuff my step-dad could accumulate in his 74 years (about as much, but different. Men keep trophies of their hunting trips, their careers, gim'me caps, country and western CD's, tapes, eight tracks, and reel to reel).

We've filled three of the BIG trashcans (rolling, 3' x 4' x 4' tall) completely. We are now working on number four. OK, that accounts for the garage, both bathrooms and the kitchen. We still have two bedrooms, a living room and an office to go through.

First will be the closets so we can throw away dad's old, threadbare favorite t-shirts and things that went out of style in 1951 (we'll Goggle for antiques though).

This has made my DW and I do some serious thinking about all of the "stuff" we have accumulated. We'll be here about another two weeks before we have to go home for awhile (all of the cabinets for her new kitchen have arrived and I have some docs to see), and while we are home we are going to put to use some of the skills we have learned this past week at OUR home.

My favorite Madras shirt (does anyone remember Madras?) that is threadbare and has been hanging in my closet for four years will be bagged up for the trash, as will some of my DW's, "Don't throw those clothes away. Maybe I'll lose enough to wear them again". These are the clothes she last wore before our first son was born, and he'll be 40 in four months. Oh yeah, and she weighed in as a featherweight at 109 pounds then. but she still has less weight to lose to get there than I do to get to my "pre-son" weight!

Do your kids a favor. Pick one room of yours to go through this weekend and don't make them go through the painful tasks of trying to choose between "throw it away" or "I'll put it in my garage".
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    I am sorry for your loss. Your wife must be glad to have you to lean on in this tragic time.

    4230 days ago
    Oh my ... I do feel for you ... my folks are both gone, and I still have a few boxes in the garage that I haven't wanted to break down and empty. It is hard to throw out a 'life' ... tough to remember these are just 'things' ... I too am trying to leave it better for my kids ... so much 'Stuff' !!! Hang in there. One suggestion I ran across is to take pictures of some of the stuff that is hardest to let go, then put that into a album.
    4247 days ago
    It is hard, isnt it. I felt guilty tossing the reel to reels my dad had. I had to plead with my mother to take the hood hair dryer (circa 1965) to the goodwill. When it comes to my own crap, oops, I mean stuff, I just keep having garage sales. I keep thinking, if it goes to someone that will use and maybe even love it, it will be okay. One day i may get rid of the clothes in the "when I get skinny tote." They have GOT to be out of style by now (or maybe they are back in?). emoticon
    4247 days ago
  • LINDA!
    It is tough to go through all of this!!
    4248 days ago
    Just to say it is ok and things are jsut that, so you will get to a point where you will know what to keep and what to maybe donate to charity.
    4248 days ago
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