KAREN-1328

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Never Judge . . . because . . .

Monday, May 04, 2009

I am a little unhappy about a message made on a board concerning points.For me it was very upsetting . . . It is important to be aware that different people are in different situations, and sometimes judging words can be so -o-o-o cruel.
My time is pretty much my own to do as I please. I have the luxury of working out how ever long i want to each day. Therefore i can probably rack up extra fitness points, and spark points, which other people may not be able to, because they do not have the time. I realize that many people don't have this luxury . . . i have been there before myself when I was raising 5 children, which kept me constantly busy.
I have only been a member for 3 months and have worked very hard at accomplishing what i have here on sparks. Sometimes the weight we have lost does not reflect our workouts . . . I am a hypothyroid who has just had to be re-diagnosed, At times every step I took was excruciatingly painful . . . but i kept on going. Unless you yourself have this disease you may not understand what this pain means. As hypos we have to work twice as hard to lose every pound. I could go on forever about the things i deal with everyday but . . . take a peak on the thyroid sight and you can see for yourself . . . . Let's listen to the people who are literally crying out for help . . .
My point . . . at last . . . is this . . .
We must be very careful how we speak of people who seem to not balance out in fitness minutes and weight loss. Leaders must be especially aware of this.
One of the things i first learned when i started Sparks is not to go by weight. . . and i am sure you heard that a few times yourself. We are all different, and that is what makes it interesting!! So let's be careful what we think about people who are struggling everyday, each of us with different problems and illnesses. Each individual has our own problems.
My heart reaches out to what many of you have faced, and will continue to face in the future. But let's reach out to each other in a caring way!
Personally, I do not even notice a person's points, but if we "must" do that . . . let's not be so quick to judge!! The Bible says . . . "judge not, that you be not judged!!" good words to live by eh??? Thank you for your time and patience.
I am so happy to have SPARKS to help me on this journey to health and fitness.
Sorry . . .Just had to get it out !! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • JUNIAAGAIN
    I did not mean to envy your points in the mail earlier - I'm really glad you can stick with it the way you do! (I did not notice that your points have been a subject of discussion lately - should have read the blog first, shouldn't I?) Anyway, you are very right in your discussion. We are very different and weight loss is not as simple a math as everybody (who does not have the problem!) make it sound. There are so many factors especially for women - including the fact that we are never hormonally stable, and have to cope with changes in our body constantly (even for those of us who do not have a diagnosed problem). I gained all my weight getting my kids and trying to juggle the kids (4of them) the full time job and evening school. Can't say, DH helped when the kids were younger but it is only a few years now that I really feel like myself (God thank you for menopause!). Of course, getting those pounds down is a lot more difficult now. But I'm enjoying the process. Not bad.
    3818 days ago
  • LKWQUILTER
    Very well said. I admit I like to get the points. I don't work and at times I think I "work" on SP more than anything else. I have reached a point where it has really gotten hard to lose weight and I admit I am exercising more.

    It is ok to vent and I think we all do at times. Just know that it is ok to do it and get it off your chest. It makes you feel better too. Take care, keep on keeping on and stay positive. I am a turtle too and we will get there.

    Linda Kay
    3822 days ago
  • PJCHILIS
    KAREN, IF I EVER SAY SOMETHING THOUGHTLESS, PLEASE LET ME KNOW. I TOO, HAVE HYPOTHYROIDISM AND BECAUSE OF ONE OF YOU. I RECENTLY JOINED A THYROID SITE. BOY, WERE MY EYES OPENED, FOR THE LITTLE I HAD TIME TO READ.

    HOW MANY POINT WE LONG IN OR HOW MUCH WE LOSE. IS NOT WHY I ENJOY SPARKPEOPLE. I DO EVERYTHING I SHOULD, I DON'T LOSE ANYTHING, BUT I AM MAKING COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS. SOMETHING, I HAVE CRAVED FOR SO LONG.THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING OUR "PENNY PINCHING TEAM".
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    3823 days ago
  • ELLIET3
    WELL SAID KAREN.
    3823 days ago
  • CHUBERASER
    I rarely ever look at anyone's points. I'm not here for that. I'm here to try and lose weight and get healthy. I like reading people's SparkPage and seeing how they started out. Alot of us are in the same boat...and it's nice to know some of the things we share.

    If you look at my SparkPage I tell you exactly why I joined SparkPeople and what my goals are. You can look at my weight and see that I am a turtle...because the weight isn't coming off that fast...but it's coming off! And my energy level is sooo much better! That's what let's me know I'm doing something right.


    Have a great week...and...it's OK to vent! I sure do!

    Deb

    3823 days ago
  • ARMYWIFE4GOD
    I agree there with you 100%. It does not help to judge anyone because of how they look or how much weight they've lost or let alone how many points they get. The points on here should NOT matter, it does make it fun yes, but it shouldn't become a must. I sometimes am guilty of judging someone because of some little thing and then I catch myself and say to myself "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?"

    Don't worry about it, we all have times where things get to us and we just have to get it out! Thank you for sharing.

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    3823 days ago
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