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Friday, April 17, 2009

Today is going to be a full day of memories for most of the family coming to visit. Uncle BJ was such an important part of this Overlie family and they are really a close bunch even though they do not all live right here he was the glue that seemed to bring it all together for almost every occassion and it always centered at his home around him so his absence will be quite noticed. I was thinking on my way to work this morning about how things should be so much easier since he's been gone since March 10th but somehow it isn't working that way for me at least. So as Mauri told me this morning go ahead and cry let the tears flow and hopefully they will mend the broken heart.
The feelings of losing Uncle BJ are so different then when we have lost other members of the family maybe because he was just such an important part of MY life where the others were important but I spent so much more time with him and learned so much more from him and just shared more of life with him. What a legend he was to so many in this family and what a wonderful example he was for us to follow, kindness should have been stamped on his forhead for that was so him, a perfect gentleman and I have never heard anyone ever say a bad word about him. What a nice thing for people to be able to say about how you lived your life I think. I remember taking him to a railroad convention one time and a nice looking middle aged man came up to him and said; " Bjarne you probably don't remember me but you made me the man I am today. You hired me when no one else would and gave me the training and skills to become someone." That conversation will forever be what he was about and I know this service tomorrow will be all about that sort of feelings.
The letting go process marches on for me...
Thank you all for your squeezes and hugs and I know you are there for me I just wanted to thank you all for listening.
Love Cheryl
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    CHERYL emoticon emoticon HE WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!
    4484 days ago
    Yuo have a very wonderful angel onyour shoulder now.
    4484 days ago
    Its sounds like he was a heck of a man and as you said you spent so much time with him its hard to let go you'll always have the memories though ((HUGS))) emoticon emoticon
    4484 days ago
  • DEUCE119
    I know of what you speak. At my Uncles funeral my Aunt was so surprised that so many came. I told her it was the measure of the man. He was good to so many when alive, that they honored him in death. I know that your family feels the same. emoticon
    4484 days ago
    Mauri is right... you Cry and Laugh, tell stories and REMEMBER all those wonderful times and things this Awesome person has shared or taught you and so many others... This is the time for the Healing to begin.
    We'll be thinking about you this weekend... Check in IF you can and need too...

    Sending lots of Love and ((hugs))

    4484 days ago
    Cheryl, there's an old Italian saying that is translated: "When you are grieving for one you love, you can be sure that person will send you smiles. "

    For me, this is true.
    At my dad's viewing, I had asked his one niece in this country, my cousin Lola, to sit with us to represent his family in Italy. She had lost her adoptive father a month earlier. My mom's oldest brother was deaf and not a church-goer. When our pastor came to pray at the wake, he led a recitation of the rosary (we're Catholic). My uncle, having no idea he was so loud, said, "When's this bandit going to quit?" My other uncles & Aunt Lena shushed him...and so they were louder than he. I couldn't help but laugh...So I put my head down & covered my face with my hands. Lola put her arm around me, reassuring me I would be okay - since she thought I was crying...which just made me laugh more!

    I KNOW my dad sent that laughter!

    Holding you in my heart this weekend...
    4484 days ago
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