How Do You React to Setbacks?
Friday, April 17, 2009
***When problems come up, how do you react? Do you look for blame, or do shoulder what you can and try to repair it? Do you throw up your hands and look for an easier way, or do you learn, adapt and keep pushing? There's a lot of talk nowadays about 'personal responsibility'. That's great. But it's usually brought up only in finding fault. It's true that to show 'responsibility' is to own up to your role in the problem's cause. We don't often hear about the other side of responsibility--an obligation to be part of the solution. Even when a hardship is not your fault at all, you can--and should--do what you can to fix it. Your skills and abilities create an obligation that only your character can fulfill***
Seemed like a good topic. What can you do to react to setbacks? Once upon a time and very large woman [who will remain nameless] Reacted by eating even more. What a horrible cycle. I learned that the only one Obligated to make any change in my life was me. Hardship - my back was damaged in a fall, and the pain everyday on a scale of 1-10 was a min of 7. Excuse built in. Yup it was my problem, but blaming outside factors was so much easier. I renewed my reactions
I opted to get rid of my weight. WLS. Give my spine a fighter chance. I worked for many other issue with me, but the back? Nope. Further reaction putting faith in my surgeon and the ability and gift God gave him. I can honestly say his had was guided by God.
So I had made a mess, could have continued doing so, learned to react a different way. I was not an easy process - long time in coming. Luckily for me I had someone my DH as my number 1 cheerleader.