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My heart is breaking...

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Last night I got a phone call from my brother who was crying, and he said these dreaded words .."Uncle Babe may not make it." I threw on my shoes and coat and headed for the hospital. My husband took me and stayed for quite a while. I was planning on staying there with my Aunt so my husband went home.
My Uncle is in a fight for his life. The doctors say he is bleeding somewhere but he is so unstable that doing exploratory surgery is not a good thing at this time. They did do a Endoscopy but only could see a raw esophogas with a little bleeding. Not enough to coz the vomitting of blood and the discharge of bloody material from the bottom. They are afraid he has had a blood clot go to the bowl and that the blood flow has been restricted. That means he may have dead bowl in there and he is septic. It is speculation at this point, later today they hope to have a better picture.

To top it off, my Aunt Ruth is sick from being at the nursing home with him everyday. The whole place is full of patients with the flu and she now has it. As if this isn't one of the hardest things she has been thru, but to go thru it sick herslef, has to be the worst. Once he was put into ICU we finally got to go see him. He is unresponsive and on a vent. It was so hard to see this big strong man just lying there. He has been such an inspiration and life force for us for so long.

He was shot twice in WW2. Once on Saipan in the stomach. After that was healed , he was hit by shrapnel in the head. They did not expect him to pull thru. They even brought the Chaplain in to pray and he was up going to the bathroom. He surprised them all. All of these things happened by the time he was 19. His parents didn't see him for a year and a half ,while he was overseas in the hospital. Since then he has lived with seizures. Really bad ones. He has been thru so much in his life. Maybe he is tired and ready, but I'm not ready.

I used to go stay with them a lot. They were never able to have children of their own, so my brothers and I filled the spot. He would take us on Sunday mornings and walk to town so we could spend the dollar he gave us. He used to introduce my Dad as the father of his children. People would get quite a laugh at that one. He is simply my Dad also. And my Father never minded sharing the role. I just can't imagine my life without him around.

When I was little, he promised to buy my wedding dress. I wanted my Aunt to make it but she was afraid she would mess it up. So when the time came, he did buy my dress. I was so proud and have it to this day. I don't think I will ever be able to part with it. I know it is only a dress, but it was THE dress and HE bought it.

So I will end this for now. The prognosis is very bad, and I guess I should stop here. I just had to get this out.
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    What a special man Uncle Babe has been for you!!! Prayers for your entire family including Uncle Babe and Aunt Ruth.
    Blessings and hugs,
    4358 days ago
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    Wow - I am so sorry to hear this news. Know that we are here for you. He sounds like a wonderful person.
    4363 days ago

    How wonderful that your father shared his role with Uncle Babe and Aunt Ruth. Your Dad and you kids gave those two so much more than you even realize. I am sure that you hold as special a place in Uncle Babe's heart as he does in yours.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and Uncle Babe!

    4364 days ago
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    How rich your life has been because of Uncle Babe. What a special man he is! To have had someone love you that much...who is not a such a special gift. My thoughts, heart and prayers are with you.

    4364 days ago
    Deuce, so sorry to hear about your Uncle. Such a special man and a wonderful role model to have made such an impact on your lives. Know I am thinking about you and sending prayers up for you and your family. Peace my friend. (((HUGS))) Claudia
    4364 days ago
    Deuce -
    I am holding your heart in mine during this hard time. My thoughts are with you and your family. It's wonderful that you know your uncle's value to you while you still have time with him. I'm glad you are able to be with him, and hope he is able to pull through this as he has pulled through so many other challenges in his life.
    Much Love,
    4365 days ago
    Deuce - My prayers for your Uncle & all of your family. How wonderful to be so close to special family members.
    4365 days ago
    emoticon Deuce oh how my heart feels for you and your family especially your Aunt. I know all too well how hard this is on you, not where any one ever wants to be in life. And it's that letting go that is so darn hard even when the end results are not what you have been praying and hoping for sometimes it's all that we can do and NO you are never prepared for this sort of thing, but it's in God's hands and he knows what needs to happen and when and trusting in his widsom to do what's best for Uncle Babe. Even when we don't like his choice.
    You won't stop the tears and you mend the heartbreak over night nor do you want to, these special people were sent to us for a very special reason and they have helped make us the women we are today and for that we must be eternally grateful all those special memories as you've been telling me do bring you comfort but they do not take away the loss and there is NO way to minimize that feeling of emptiness my friend so you and I will hold each tightly through this time. You still have hope for Uncle Babe don't let go of tha til his last breath is taken and then KNOW he's gone on to a better painfree place with Jesus holding his hand, anyone who has done so much good for others during their lifetime has a special place in heaven waiting for him to continue doing good things. I love you girlfriend, and will be here when you need me. Love Cheryl emoticon
    4366 days ago
    Deuce - I am so sorry to hear your news of Your very special Uncle Babe... Last I has saw he was on the mend... Sounds like your Aunt needs you to be strong for her since she is so sick right now...
    Please know that you and him and the family are in my prayers...

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    Hope you are feeling better too...
    4366 days ago
  • POLLY20
    My Deuce, I am feeling heartsickened for you at this Critical time in your life.. Uncle Babe, is riding on some rough roads yet again.. You & Your Brother are His Pride & Joy..Aunt Ruth must be so very fragile at this time & it's just so nice that you were able to be with her through all that is going on.. Your Uncle has left a big impression here for all to remember.. I know that at this time He is fighting the wars over & over again.. The bleeding has to be stopped & I am sure that the Dr's are doing their best to find out what is going on.. My prayers
    & thoughts are flowing in your direction.. I just can't see the suffering that He & the Whole Family is going through.. No one should have to go through all of this. He is a survivor & always be a Hero in everyone's Heart.. Blessings for everyone's Peace of mind.. Love & Hugs
    Always Polly
    4366 days ago
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