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Thursday, February 26, 2009

Well it has been quite a week. Alot of changes going on. We went thru this about a month ago and now One of my teams finds itself in the same predictament. The people on this team are very precious to me. They listen and offer suggestions for my lifestyle journey and offer the same when I find myself having a personnal Problem. They are always there. To lift me up .

We are now at a crossroads. What to do next. We have been accused of bullying and having a mob mentality. Well, that is the furthest thing from the truth. One question was asked that went against what had been decided by one person, and all was downhill from there. I never realized that stating your opinion , even tho it goes against the grain, was a bad thing. That is all it was. Our opinion against One other persons. For some reason it wasn't ok to question what was going to happen.

I guess I'm not sure why sending someone nasty mail isn't considered to a bad thing. The person who wrote the email knows who they are and to whom it was sent. It was very hurtful and not at all necessary. We were told that if we had a beef with someone, to let them know thru the email. I guess that would be ok for some, but I really think being cruel to someone is not. I choose to say what I think so that all can hear. That way my words cannot be misconstrued or changed. You all know how word of mouth is. The story is always worse the farther down the line it goes.

The time for us to heal is now. I had to write this to get what I thought off my chest. I am tired of all of us getting the backlash . Look in the mirror, if you want to see bullying, well that reflection will show you the biggest bully of them all.

Now we will move forward. This time in our lives is over. No more Adminisdtrative Dictatorship for this team. We are there for and with each other.
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    I hope no one was writing mean things to you we are all grown ups here and I think we need to act like it Sorry if some one was being mean to you emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4380 days ago
    I still have never figured out what has happened here although it sounds like it is still going on. Deuce, you know I love you and so enjoy you and your remarks. Whatever it is though, I have to agree with Kathy, let go and let God. Be at peace with everything in your life. Your friends and Spark family are here for you.
    May God continue to bless you richly.
    Blessings and hugs my friend,
    4380 days ago
    Deuce, I trust that it is now off your plate and you are back to enjoying your time on your time! People bring so many of their life experiences with them...and we never know how it will be reflected in behavior or reactions...whether the experience is good or bad.

    Whew! emoticon
    4382 days ago
  • MARLA7
    High Five Deuce - I couldn't have said it any better if I tried. And YES, THEY know who THEY are. Shame on THEM! Love ya, Marla
    4382 days ago
    DEUCE all I can say to your blog is WOW.........but as you read that post from Tazzi you have a true friendship there that's for sure, someone who's been there done that and totally understands what your heart and mind are feeling. That alone is a rare gift from a friend. You are one very giving woman who has experienced alot of life and not all has been easy and I so admire that you continue to pull the best of the best out of yourself to share with your friends. Things will be ok as they say, life has a funny way of sorting things out and moving on. Love Cheryl
    4382 days ago
    Deuce, Deuce, Deuce - I am so sorry you are feeling this kind of pain again. I remember when that kind of stuff happened in classy quitters & I was the target. They tried to belittle me in every way, shape & form as you might recall, but never quite did succeed. You were there to hold me up & I thank you. I am so much better for moving on & have never looked back with regret.

    Take the goodness you have enjoyed from your experiences & move on Sweetie. Leave the bad behind. Whoever has hurt you will have to deal with their pain & grief in their own time.

    Carry on in a stronger & wiser way. Continue to share the goodness you possess. Remove yourself from situations that no longer benefit you. They don't require your attention any longer. Let others tend to the clean up if they wish.

    It sounds like it is time for you to find glory in moving onward. I can only imagine you have left a ton of goodness behind.

    Fear not. Be blessed.
    4382 days ago
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  • POLLY20
    Deuce, I love your Avatar.. Looks so very peaceful.. That's All that we need in our lives at this time is Peace & tranquility.. Life does take some turns, but some of that can't be prevented..
    We can be there for each other & that's what a Friendship is all about.. No need to make the struggle any harder than it already is.. I am here for the Love & support.. I see so much every day from so many.. Let's continue to keep our Hearts & Minds opened so that we can at least share many smiles together.. I know where you are coming from & I admire you for your continued Support to Me & Most of all to Our Spark People Family.. Love Polly
    4382 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/26/2009 8:55:07 PM
    I'm all for moving ahead... It's Time to Let go and Let God...

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    4382 days ago
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