It's been a long time since I've posted a blog; I've "written" several in my mind, but couldn't get my thoughts down on-screen. However, Friday, February 27th - the first anniversary of Scott's death - is approaching fast. It will be a tough day, of course, just as the past year has been very difficult.
DD Aubrey and SIL Mike have driven up to Santa Barbara (he attended UCSB) for a few days. Mike has been organizing rock climbing trips for some time, and Scott became an avid participant. In the mountains above Santa Barbara is Scott's favorite place for hiking and climbing. This is Scott standing at the edge of the cliff.
On Friday, Aubs and Mike will make the climb and spread some of Scott's ashes there. The view is breath-taking, with the city in the distance and the Pacific Ocean beyond. It's comforting that Scott will "be" in a place so beautiful, where he loved to spend his precious time. And, as Aubrey said, "...in view of the biggest party town, full of gorgeous women!"
I have a full day planned for Feb 27th too, knowing that the whole day will be - I can't find a strong enough word to describe it. I don't want to be alone, so I'll spend the day with a girlfriend (she's treating me to a haircut and lunch out). Then, after time with DGD Kaile and DH Bob, in the late afternoon I'll drive down to Orange County to spend the evening with Scott's neighbors.
There is, however, in all this sadness, another special Scott day that will be here soon. The following is the "invitation" I've sent out. I'd like to share it with you, as it's a good indicator of what's happening in my life right now. As heart-broken as I am, I feel a surge of pride and happiness when I think of my wonderful son. That's what this is all about:
Hello there, it's Elizabeth Buehler Miller, "Scott's Mom." Friday, February 27th - the first anniversary of Scott's death - is approaching fast. It will be a tough day, of course, just as the past year has been very difficult. I wish I could write each of you individually, and share a personal message; I've started so many emails and letters, but rarely finished. Now, time is passing quickly and I want to get this information out, so I hope you don't mind a group email.
Instead of highlighting Scott's death-day, I'd like to celebrate his birth-day on March 6th. As it's just a week later, this gathering can be both a recognition of the anniversary of his loss, and a celebration of his life. After all, just because Scott's not here doesn't mean it's not his birthday! Shortly before his death, Scott spoke to a friend about what kind of funeral he'd like to have if something happened to him: "Have a big party," he said.
I'm hosting a "BYOP" (Buy Your Own Pizza) party at Zito's Pizzeria on Friday, March 6th.
I think the Zito's on Tustin Ave in Orange , CA (by Scott's home) is the best place - lots of room, good food, good memories, and people know it. I'll be there from 6 pm until about 9 pm , so people can come and go convenient to their schedule. There will be Cake... and Laughter! Please bring photos to share, if you can. This is meant to be a time to share our memories and funny stories...
A True Celebration of Knowing and Remembering Scott!
For those of you who live out-of-town, I don't expect you to drive for hours or fly in to attend! I did, however, want you to know our plans, and I hope you'll join the celebration, if not in person, then in your heart. For more information, please email or call me. Thank you so much, Take Care, Elizabeth ~