'fessing, flunking, finishing

Saturday, November 22, 2008

'FESSING UP: Once I went to a seminar at a church about Carl Jung and dreams. Before I knew it, I was in counseling. Didn't really understand why I needed counseling but I didn't want to hurt the therapist's feelings. So I did discuss an incident of sexual molestation by a stranger on grandma's farm. I journaled, read emoticon and attended sessions regularly until one day the therapist told me I was at a standstill. It was suggested that I go to another counsellor.

FLUNKING: emoticonI flunked counselling. I was being sent to more skilled therapist. I dug really deep to expose the one thing I had never told anyone. Within two sessions, I was able to confide in the new therapist. (I sure didn't want to flunk counselling again. emoticon) Now, I had finally made the therapist happy! emoticonBUT NO! Just talking about it wasn't enough, I was told to talk about the situation with my mother.

Momma and I talked about the event which involved a telephone call after being molested at the age of 9. Learned the telephone call had never been made to Momma and Daddy as grandma told me. Momma said had the telephone call taken place, Daddy probably would be in jail as he would have come to shoot the stranger who was a farmhand.

FINISHING: Hence one of my backward lessons. I didn't know I needed counseling. Yet it was rather a life-altering and healing event.
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    Oh are not a flunkee! I understand why you had a hard time opening up about this event. I just recently opened up with my umpteenth counselor(many over the last 20 years) after 4 years with her. Same counselor but had to work slowly to be able to talk about some childhood events. It was not molestation but close. I hope this allows further emptying of stuff you have stuffed. emoticon
    4083 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/12/2008 9:56:48 PM
    Good for you. I'm glad you got some resolution and support. emoticon
    4095 days ago
    Such courage! DOUBLE WTG!!

    I'm so sorry to hear of your first encounter with a therapist and am so pleased you didn't allow this to block your progress. Surely there must have been a way for you to move forward without feeling you had a scarlet "F" on your!

    There are so many factors which make or break the therapeutic experience. Mostly there is a personality "fit" which can often seem to be beyond one's control and not the fault of either the therapist nor the client. I'm so pleased for your special moment with your mother.

    Here's to many more "life-altering, healing events!" Have a happy, healthy Thanksgiving.

    Don, Co-Leader of All Health Professionals SparkTeam

    ps...did you nab that turkey yet? :-)
    4101 days ago
    I think you deserve a medal emoticon
    Love you
    4102 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    I was laughing because CHASING TURKEYS might just be better for us than eating DINNER. emoticon emoticon
    4103 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    WOW, isn't it interesting how so many of us were done as children, yet all of us thought it had ONLY happened to us, because NO ONE talked about it? You were lucky to have been able to have told your Grandma, because I could NEVER go to my mother and tell her anything, because I knew she'd blow up and blame me. emoticon emoticon
    4103 days ago
  • no profile photo LILITH0572
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    That took a lot of guts... I'm with you & here for you... emoticon
    4103 days ago

    OMG!! I had a similar experience where my counselor said he didn't know how to help me... and had a PhD! I've moved on to another one (with less credentials, lol) who is able to help. THANK YOU for sharing that... I thought I was the only one who had flunked counseling. emoticon

    Glad you experienced healing and are in a better place. It shows a lot of courage and I admire that!

    4104 days ago
    Good for you, a lot of people thing you need to be crazy to need councling, and you are one that proves thats not true. It is good for the soul and mind to get stuff off your chest and it cleanses you. Good job. Keep up the good work.
    4104 days ago
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