Why do people "accuse" others of weight loss?
Monday, August 11, 2008
Last week I posted about someone finally noticing that I had lost weight. Although it was slightly awkward, it was nice to know that my hard work produced noticeable results.
Today, a coworker stopped me in the hall and barked, "Have you been losing weight?!" This was in no way a compliment - it was more like an accusation. I didn't know what to say. I felt like if I admitted that yes, I had been losing weight, she would yell at me or something. I simply repsponded that I had been working out more...and didn't really say yes or no to the weight loss question. She kind of scowled at me and said, "Well you look like skin and bones!"
Umm...what?! How is being at a normal, healthy weight 'skin and bones'? I have a pretty realistic and secure body image, and I know that I am not going overboard on this weight loss journey. I am still well within a healthy range for my height and age. I do not look gaunt or malnourished.
I realize that weight loss is a very touchy subject for a lot of people. It can bring up feelings of guilt or jealousy. Perhaps those feelings were what caused my coworker to talk to me that way. I find her reaction completely inappropriate and rude, but maybe I should just take the positive out of her comments - that she noticed I have lost weight - and leave the rest behind.
Have any of you had similar experiences? Please share!