Me and the lady at the pool.

Wednesday, August 06, 2008

Ok. I go to the adult water aerobics class every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday morning. It's a nice group of older men and women. One of the women who comes to class is a drinker, I won't use the word "alcoholic" because I don't know that she is. But the woman has beer on her breath every time she shows up for class.

Our class meets at 9:30 a.m., so it is safe to make the assumption that she has a beer or two or three for breakfast. Ok. That's the background. By the way, did I mention that she is also very very skinny.

After class today, I was sitting on the bench outside of the pool waiting for the bus to pick me up and take me up to the gym.

This woman sits down next to me, lights up a cigarette and says, "Do you need a ride home?"

"No," I answer, "I am waiting for the bus to go up to the gym".

(Like I would be silly enough to get into a car with a drinker.)

She says, "Oh, it's a good thing you go the the gym, you really need it."

(My mind says GRRRRR)

She then says. "Which gym do you go to?" as she blows smoke and beery breath into my face.

I say, "The one at the coffee shop."

She says, "What do you do there?"

I say, "Just the usual, treadmill, circuit training stuff."

She says. "How long do you stay at the gym?" with more smoke and beery breath.

I say, "About an hour or so, maybe a little longer."

She says, "Honey, you really should stay there longer, you would lose weight if you exercised more."

I nod my head and mutter "mmmha" through closed lips while the evil person in my brain is saying bad things."

She blows out more smoke and beery breath and says, "Do you eat fruits and vegetables? You really should eat more fruits and vegetables and not as much junk food"

Through clenched lips, I nod my head and mutter "mmmha" again as the evil person in my head is wondering why someone who drinks beer for breakfast is giving me advice on a healthy diet.

With more beery breath, she the says, "I'm a vegetarian and eating a lot of vegetables really clears your body out and keeps you from being so heavy."

Once again, I nod my head and mutter "mmmha". Now the evil person in my brain wants to deck her.

I reach over to my swim bag and open the zipper front pocket where I keep my gum. I pull the pack of gum out and I say (ever so innocently and sweetly), "Would you like a stick of gum to cover up the beer breath?"

For some reason she made a "Hrummmf" sound and got up and walked away.

I really need to work on my compassion, understanding and empathy. That evil person in my head runs amok sometimes.

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  • MJWEBB6200
    Oh, my!!!!!!!!!!!! I give you a lot of credit. I probably wouldn't be so patient.
    4622 days ago
  • BKP4166
    Ro...Was your tongue bleeding? I think mine would have been. Biting it hard tends to do that. emoticon
    4632 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    She was probably to drunk to remember what you said afterwards! emoticon
    4632 days ago
    You are amazing. I would not have keep my mouth shut.
    My husband calls that side of me Sible
    4632 days ago
    I DO love your comments. Please keep it up!
    4632 days ago
  • SUZY6281
    Wow. I was ready to deck her after the first comment. It's amazing how some people feel like they can make any remark without considering exactly what they are saying. I guess she felt better about herself by belittling you. You have amazing constraint.

    I probably would have taken the insults, felt bad about them and then much later, thought of the perfect comeback. As usual, way too late to make me feel better.

    Good for you.

    Suzy emoticon
    4633 days ago
  • no profile photo TMROTH
    i love it Ro. I still think we are related. Must be the Alien side of us.
    4633 days ago
  • LUVDANCE6803
    emoticon Ro, You handled that a lot better than I would have !!
    4633 days ago
    WOOHOO!!! You go girl. I think you handled that really well. :) Amazing how she can dish out comment after comment, but it only takes her getting one and she runs off.
    4633 days ago
    You know that little voice that kept talking to you - it was me. It was saying deck her, deck her, deck her. lol You exercised great restraint. You do us proud. And once again you made my day. Thanks.
    4633 days ago
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  • DEUCE119

    YOU GOT HER IN THE END. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4633 days ago
  • no profile photo SKATERGIRL3
    Dam Ro, I would of went off on her, you were too nice. What a stupid drunk bitch!!!!!!!!!!!
    I give you alot of credit for not decking her one alright.
    I'm so proud of you for pointing out, hinting you smelled the beer on her. You had the last laugh in a way then she walked away.. good for you!
    Sounds like my friend Mary she does that alot at the rink telling me how to eat, what to eat and how I should execise pointing out that I look heavy on my fat days. It's hard you hold it in , say ah, uh yeah OK.
    We have this one guy that shows up at the rink now in the morning with alchohol on his breath, I stay very far away from him!! Don't talk to that lady again she is bad news. emoticon
    4633 days ago
    oh I don't think you need to work on ANYTHING she wasn't compassionate, why should you have been. besides you were just trying to help. I think your response was wonderful. don't let people like her get you down, you're doing great, keep up the good work.
    4633 days ago
    That reminds me of years ago when I was about 150 pounds (I am 200 pounds now) and a young woman asked me when the baby was due. emoticon
    4633 days ago
    Way to go Ro. Now... here's my favorite way to handle this (you know me... I gotta add sumpin)
    YOU SAY... Do You Have a Breath Mint?
    They say: "Yes"
    YOU say... "well, would you mind using it?

    if they say ... NO I don't have one... then cheerily open up your bag... hand them yours...and say.. "No Problem... I love being helpful myself!"

    If possible, have a camera ready... it's a genuine Kodak moment.

    ps... even if you want to sell me... I still think your awfulsome (dang... I gotta get this spell checker fixed)
    4633 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/6/2008 9:35:55 PM
    Oh my goodness, I wasn't expecting you to say that to her, but I am SO glad you did. She should look at her own faults before she starts trying to judge other people.
    4633 days ago
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