Family Ties? Where Did The Dream Go?

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

We think we have our families all figured out when we are young. How many children we want, what our children will look like when they are born, what they'll look like as adults. What kind of a relationship we will have with them when they grow and the relationship we'll have with their children. But that youthful dreams seems to shatter as time goes by and they grow into adults. They each go off in their own direction, sometimes far away from us and we only get to see them once in a while, maybe only hear from them once in a blue moon. Hardly ever get to see our grandchildren or be a part of their lives. Where did the dream go? Where did that loving close family good? The one I dreamed of? The weekend suppers where we would all gather together to enjoy laughter and memories. Where did they all go? The family holidays that we would share together, where did the all go? They were all just youthful dreams that only existed in our minds not in reality. How sad it all is that so many negative things go on in our world today to take away the family unit. Our son's and daughter's our off fighting wars, they are moving so far away from us and now we won't even be able to fly to visit our children and grandchildren any more because of the gasoline prices. Only the rich will be able to travel. Every one has such busy lives any more. No TIme For Family. No Time For Memories of Family. It's all to sad to think of sometimes. The longing for that youthful dream of Family and Memories. Where has it all gone to? It's time to search our hearts and minds. It's time to take action to bring our families back together. It's Time To Take Time Out for FAMILY!
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    I have no idea where the dream went, in fact, I had the same one and it just never got around to knocking on my door, either. I have two sons and severn grandchildren. One son lives about a 7 hours drive away with his family and the other here in the town where I live. Of course, I see the one living nearby more often, but there aren't those "Waltons" moments that we conjured up in our heads long ago.

    I think part of the problem for us is the fact that we were born and raised in a different time that had different values. I remember family dinners with everyone gathered around during the holidays. I remember Mother's and Father's Days where my parents were loaded with gifts and cards and children and grandchildren in the house...a wild, happy bunch of people all there to celebrate FAMILY!

    As grandparents we have to do our best to be a part of the lives of those babies born to our children. Cards, e-mail, little gifts, phone calls...all of those things play an important part in creating memories that will last long after we have gone on to a better place. Sadly, our children are so busy right now making homes for their children that they don't realize their parents won't be here forever and that one day, maybe sooner than later, they will stand over a hole in the ground looking at a box that holds a parent. They will wish they had called more or sent more cards or made the attempt to visit more to create memories. But the time for that will be gone. The best we can hope for is that our children won't, some day, wonder, "Where did the dream go?"

    If it helps at all, I hear your words and I understand.
    4421 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/1/2008 1:05:22 PM
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