Eye contact is a beautiful thing!

Monday, June 16, 2008

As many of you know, I have started dating someone new. I have received sweet comments about how attractive he is, and well, how lovely we look together. I thank you for these compliments, but there is really an important lesson underneath this:

I would have never met Jim if I didn't feel good enough about myself to talk to him in the first place! Had we met in June of 2007, I would have shook his hand, kept my head ducked, sipped my cocktail and walked away. My friend who introduced us would have not been informed of what I was thinking, "I'm too fat to talk to such a nice looking guy."

I have no idea whether Jim (or the last two guys I dated for that matter) would have found the larger me appealing or not, and that's not the point. The point is that *I* didn't!!

There is much more to feeling slim and sexy the pure vanity. For me, it's the sense that I am worth being taken very good care of; I am worth the effort of delicious and nutritious meals and I am worth gym time... or as my Sparkfriend Dean recently noted "Jim time!" YES! I am worth time with a great guy who treats me at least as well as I treat myself.

For me, feeling comfortable with my body came from finding compassion for myself. Realizing that I am worth the hard work of showing up for life and toiling toward the things that are important to me... health, fitness, career and love.

I thank my friends and teammates on Sparkpeople who have inspired and encouraged me to hold my head high and make eye contact with the hotties!! It's really quite fun....

...and really, really rewarding.
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    Beautiful post, and I hope that the two of you are still together...

    3743 days ago
    Although we have not yet met, we see eye to eye.
    4692 days ago
    Very inspiring! And congrats on your new love: yourself! emoticon
    4696 days ago
    "I would have shook his hand, kept my head ducked, sipped my cocktail and walked away."

    I can soooo relate to that! Haha!
    4710 days ago
    So happy for you!

    I wish you the best on this new journey.

    4715 days ago
    Excellent !!!

    Remember, you need to feel good about yourself before anyone else can feel good about you. Others can always sense when you are not happy with yourself.

    I hope it works out for you and the new guy. You two look great together ... and from the sounds of it ... REALLY CLICK !!!!
    4715 days ago
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