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An Evening Out With Friends

Sunday, June 08, 2008

Saturday evening I went with my boyfriend, his cousin, and aunt and uncle who are about our age to an arena football game. I was kind of worried about the stairs and seating, but since I lost 62 pounds I figured "Why not?", and went with a positive attitude.When we got there the parking was four blocks away and the walk to the arena was at an uphill slope. That was fine I walked it without getting winded and I was keeping up with the others. My thought was "more steps on the pedometer", 5 months ago I would have gotten dropped off at the door and waited for them. We got in the arena and more walking, more steps,whoo hoo. We got down the stairs and to our seats and, THIS IS BIG, I fit in the seat ! Right before the game started a couple came to sit in the same row as us. The woman was about 10-12 years younger than me and about 50-75 lbs. lighter than me when I started Sparkpeople and my life change. They sat next to me,I was at the end of our group. As they sat there, I kind of took notice of her habits I guess because I seem to be so much more aware of those kinds of things lately. She drank a total of 4 or 5 beers throughout the night, and ate a personal pizza, a corn dog, a plate of hot wings, and popcorn. They had started getting noisy as the night and alcohol progressed. They weren't too bad and we were all there to have fun so it really didn't bother me. Then she got a little too loud and her boyfriend seemed to be embarrased by her and told her to stop it. That made her angry and she said "You need to shut up, I could look like her" and pointed at me. I am ususally very quiet when people make remarks or look a little too hard. Not tonight, I politely turned to her and said "I heard what you said and that's fine that you feel that way, but I've just recently lost 62 pounds and from what I've seen tonight, if you don't change your habits you will be where I was 5 months ago before too long".Well, all she did was kind of laugh, and sit there but her boyfriend couldn't appologize enough to me, then he took her and they left. I just hope she remembers our conversation tomorrow, maybe it will open her eyes a bit.
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    emoticon LOOOOVE IT! emoticon (part of me wouldn't have wanted to help her, so you were nice!)
    3143 days ago
    Oh wow. Well, there's a reason they call me the DragonLady---and it's not because I love fantasy either. I don't know that I would have handled that as graceful as you did!

    the DragonLady
    3569 days ago
    OK, I'm reading this blog 4 months later, but I'm still VERY impressed. You handled that situation with dignity and poise. I'm not sure what I would have done -- I know my first *instinctive response* would have been to slap her, but I'd like to think I would be able to get past that. But to respond so wittily and with such a classy comment on the spur of the moment like that? You are talented, my friend :-)
    3781 days ago
    Hi Sherry, I had to smile...I can just see you having ENOUGH!!! and letting her have it. I had a similar experience (as I'm sure most of us have) where I was out with my sister and a couple of "seriously happy" folk made a comment about my weight. My sister leaned over and in a stage whisper said "you're twice as thin and twice as common, when you have twice the dignity, you can be twice as heavy." I chuckled because it really didn't hurt me at all. I really do believe that people with fast mouths and loose tongues have no brain or character. And if I have to choose...I'll choose character, brains and weight, since a lack of those two things doesn't appeal at all. And in the words of Winston Churchill....."lady, I'll be sober in the morning and you will still be ugly!" In our case, "lady I will reach my goal in a year or so, and you will still have no character/brain."
    3908 days ago
  • SHERRY_38
    Sherry - I sit here in total admiration. I probably would have just cried. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!! I'm so proud. And I love your B.I.T.C.H. picture! So cute! I want to be a b*tch too! (tee hee)

    You are totally awesome.

    The other Sherry
    3910 days ago
    You go girl... If nothing else made her boyfriend think....

    Take care and be true to you,


    3910 days ago
    YOU ROCK!! Way to go. I think that is absolutely incredible how you stood up for yourself. So many people, myself included, would probably after hearing that statement, have pretended to be watching the football game and have chosen to ignore what that girl said. I think it demonstrates great inner beauty and respect for yourself to not let some troubled person put them down - and obviously, this girl has many issues.
    3910 days ago
    AWWWW my Sherry Baby is a true Babe in total control of herself!!! Love that. What a class act you are. I am proud of you. You are such a lady. You tried to help her,that's just the kind of gal you are. I just feel some satisfaction knowing her veins are full of sludge and she is going to feel like crap tomorrow. he he. ((((hugs)))) Kimmy
    3911 days ago
  • RAVON27
    Awesome job! Not much else I can say since everyone else said it so eloquently! I'm proud of what you're doing and who you are!
    3911 days ago
    What a great testament to all the positive changes in your life! You handled yourself with class and dignity.....even if she didn't listen to you, maybe she heard...

    And congrats to you for the rest of your successful evening...."steps on the pedometer" and fitting in the seat! Doesn't that feel wonderful!
    3911 days ago
    WOW!!! That was as close to perfect an interaction as I can imagine. You were reality based and positive the whole time, and she learned more about herself--if, as you say, she allows herself to.

    Wow. I hope I rise to the occasion--of any kind--in my life as well as you did. That was one that made the angles sing--and laugh, too!

    Good work!!
    3911 days ago
    Wow, I'm speechless! Congrats on standing up for yourself. Just think, 62 pounds ago you would have reacted differently! This is a life change and you are doing amazing! Keep up the GREAT work!
    3912 days ago
    I'm so glad you stood up for yourself and told that girl what's what. Regardless of what may lay ahead in terms of how far you have on your journey, you've come farther than a lot of people have and you should be proud of yourself for that fact. You are a very strong woman and obviously this other girl is not only immature but completely unhappy with herself. I can guarantee you that she would have called a thin person a you know what and started crap with her as well. Which is sad. I hope she heeds your warning, but if she doesn't and you see her out ever again, kill her with kindness by kindly suggesting SparkPeople and letting her know how much it helped you, then smile and walk away.


    Oh, and props to that girl's boyfriend for apologizing... there aren't many men out there who would do such a thing.
    3912 days ago
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