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I've had a long struggle with my body and my weight.

I've been on every diet. I've had weight loss surgery. I've lost lots of weight. I've had my weight loss surgery reversed. I've gained lots of weight. I've hated my body. I've over and underfed her, moved her too much and not enough. I've bullied her and tried to beat her into submission. It has never worked. I'm just thankful she hasn't given up on me entirely.

And I've decided it's enough. I've parted ways with my scale. I've stopped logging every thing I eat and every minute of exercise. I've stopped picking food based on calorie count and exercise based on calorie burn. None of those things made me feel good. And actually, none of those things made me lose weight and keep it off.

After reading The Desire Map at the beginning of 2014, I've been on a different journey. One where I decide how I want to feel, and seek out experiences and actions that allow me to feel those feelings.

Now I have fun every day, because that makes me feel free.

I move my body in ways that feel good for me, because that feels inspiring.

I love my body for who she is today, for what she looks like today and what she can do today. I treat my body with the respect she deserves no matter how she looks, and I listen to what she's trying to tell me, because that feels authentic. My body's name is Freya, by the way, and she is one fierce goddess!

I take time every day to slow down and notice my surroundings, because that's when the magic happens.

I eat nourishing foods, without restriction, because that feels abundant.

We're all chasing the feelings that we think weight loss will bring us. I'm continually seeking ways to feel those feelings, no matter how much my body weighs.

Join me: http://melaniepaquette.com

Member Since: 5/20/2008

Fitness Minutes: 44,761

My Goals:
To feel good. To feel authentic, free, magical, inspired and abundant.

I seek out experiences and actions that allow me to feel those feelings.

My Program:
Have fun every day.

Move my body in ways that feel good.

Love the body I have now, as she is today.

Eat foods that nourish my body and my spirit.

Personal Information:
Coach, mother, girlfriend. Desire Map workshop facilitator. I like the beach, volleyball, wine, things that sparkle, and the colour purple. Halloween is my favourite holiday.

Other Information:
Proudly Canadian.

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  • v DSJB9999
    MORNING BEAUTIFUL!!! Guess what ?? 
    I hope you have a fabulous day and you never ever forget how beautiful, funny, smart, kind, brave, and strong you are! You are more than enough to achieve all of your goals this year and then some!!! 
    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon love from the LY/LYB Team and me Donna x
    2546 days ago
    Just wanted to say hi and I hope you had a great weekend and have a great week. emoticon
    2553 days ago
  • v JUSTYNA7
    I really like the goals you posted... very similar to mine.. almost eirily so. Thanks for sharing them. I posted a chcolate muffin breakfast muffin on a recent blog that is sweetened with maple syrup... but otherwise gluten and dairy free. Good for many reasons. I am focusing on clean eating. I need to be accountable and my evening sabatoge team, bless their hearts is getting a bit too chatty instead of focusing on food issues. So... I am wondering how to do that. This morning I started by writing down today's food plan. I have realized that sometimes I can eat light... and it is intriguing me and at the same time I am not sure if it is a trend towards fasting which I CANNOT do or OK. Portions for me are an issue as is evening snacking. Mornings are easy. Anyways, I know you blog elsewhere but I'll try and keep in touch.
    2589 days ago
    Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my blog. I really appreciate your thoughts and kind words!
    2603 days ago
    emoticon for commenting on my She's Here Blog! I am so happy she's here! emoticon Have an Awesome 2014
    2607 days ago
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