My husband, Brian and I on holiday

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  • v GLORYB83
    Hi Joan, I'm hoping you still come in to look at your page.
    Also praying everything is going well with you and that you'll come back to Sparks with us again.

    3068 days ago
  • v GLORYB83
    You didn't bore me Joan and you'll not be forgotten, just as your Brian won't be forgotten! I'm sorry you had so much extra stress that you certainly didn't need. It has stressed home to me how glad I am that we have our monument done and put on our plot with our names and birth dates, so when one of us goes, it will ease the other to know this is done. It's hard enough to lose your loved one without all this on top of it.
    Take good care of yourself, get away as you said in December and try to have a relaxing stay and come back refreshed.
    Thinking of you and come in to chat whenever you feel up to it.
    Love and hugs, Gloria
    3138 days ago
    Hello Gloria, and thanks for the message. I'm finding life a bit hard at the moment as you might imagine. Things are taking longer than I thought, the funeral directors said if I left it all to them they would arrange for the burial of Brian's ashes in a cemetery very near me but weeks went by and he was fobbing me off with excuses about them having no plots left and all sorts.
    Last Thursday my eldest daughter, Karen and I went to the Crematorium and within and hour I had chosen a plot, very near and convenient for me to visit on my scooter, and had paid for it and also for the internment. Karen took me straight home and I rang the FD to tell them I'd arranged it and they said the Crem had already been in touch and they were delivering the ashes that afternoon. It's said that if you want anything doing properly, do it yourself.
    On Saturday, my cleaner, Becky took me to a nearby monumental masons and I chose a headstone. I broke down when writing out what I wanted as regard lettering but Becky was very supportive and we got two drinks each from the lady in the shop and she also handed me a box of tissues, lol. We were in there about an hour and a half, but her brother, who was the mason, is going away on Thursday and she said it would be four weeks. I told her I'd better go elsewhere then as I thought Brian had waited long enough. She telephoned her brother, faxed the text I'd chosen through to him and told him I had paid in full - nearly £1000. Surprising how money talks, he said it would be done on Wednesday. He died seven weeks ago tomorrow and at last we'll have somewhere to go and take him flowers and such.
    I seem to be getting frustrating hold ups everywhere. His Health Insurance owe me over £2000 but have yet to pay up but they keep promising. I haven't been able to access my bank account on line for about five weeks until today. I've been going every week as when our savings account was opened the wrong info was put on my details and they've been finding out one error ever week or so since I had Brian's name removed from the accounts. The had my surname ending with an N instead of an M and they had my birthdate as 6th of the 12th instead of 6th of 12th, my card had been put on the savings account with a mistake in the number and finally they had Brian's NI number instead of mine.
    I'm relieved it's all sorted now but I could have done without the extra stress on top of everything else. I'm still very chesty and have developed a dry hacking cough. Doctor says it's stress from the bereavement.
    The family think I'm doing well, only my friends know how hard I've taken it. I tell them that my signature song is Yes, I'm the Great Pretender. The words just seem to fit, lol.
    I'm going to Blackpool for a few days on 14th December, on my own. It will be the same hotel Brian and I went to two years ago but I used to work there and for nine years of my life lived nearby so in a way it will be like going home.
    I'll try to get back to you as things get straightened out, maybe when Christmas is over I'll be able to get back to normal, in the meantime I'll come on here when I can.
    Sorry I've gone on a bit but I hope I haven't bored you,
    emoticon It's nice to know I'm not forgotten.
    3138 days ago
  • v GLORYB83
    I wish you well Joan and hope you will return to us sometime. Do what's best for you dear.
    emoticon Gloria
    3138 days ago
    Sorry I haven't returned, in fact I'm not sure I will. I have been ill for the past week with chest infection and gastric trouble. I'm gradually sorting through paperwork and that sort of thing but it is all taking time and some things are taking weeks.
    I bought a mobility scooter on 1st October, I had it a week, only went out on it twice and it broke down,. A mechanic came and said there was a fault in the automatic braking, he ordered a new unit and said it could be up to a fortnight. The fortnight was up today and I rang them to see what was happening and they promised to ring me back. They didn't!! I rang again but no one there. I think it's a disgrace, I pay about £1250 out and I'm still without wheels.
    It seems to be one thing after another, Andy and I are still trying to get the house sorted out as Brian was a hoarder and there's been loads to share among the family or send to charity shop.
    The only good news is that I have got a wonderful cleaner, she is about 22-23 and a lovely girl and works hard. I'm having her for six hours a week at first (Tues & Thurs afternoons) then it will be just Tuesdays. I can't lay out £40 a week for very long as I've other expenses too. She's a treasure and was recommended but my friend.
    Hope you are all enjoying life,
    Joan emoticon
    3161 days ago
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