OVERDUECHANGE
I sincerely appreciate your input, thank you. It took a lot of people calling a spade a spade before it finally sunk in and I had to wake up and face my denial head on.
(and, I know from some of the PMs that I get, I'm not the only one in a situation like this, so I think other people who read the comments also benefit from the perspective, even if they're not willing to admit it publicly yet.) 1463 days ago