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LADYCJM SparkPoints: (57,456)
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4/10/14 1:22 A

My mind set now is I never want to have lose 100#s again!
I don't ever want to feel as sick and tired as I did 100#s ago.

I like how I feel. And that is what I think about.

I know I will not be perfect. I know that there will be days when the cookies call my name a lot louder than the carrots will.

I have promised myself that I will do the best I can every day. I will eat healthy foods most of the time. I will exercise regularly. And I will enjoy life, including the cookie!

You have received a lot of really good advice.
Pick one thing to change. And stick with that change till it is a habit. Then make another change.

A good easy change is to add a fruit a day. For example, eat an apple every day at your morning coffee break. When that is a habit, add carrots and hummus for an after noon snack. Every day. Till your body expects it. Then add a veggie at lunch. And a fruit at breakfast. Then a veggie or a second veggie at dinner.
The small changes above might take a couple of months. But by the time you get up to 7 servings a day it will be a habit. And habits are easy!

Good luck, you can do this.

MCCC75 SparkPoints: (25,022)
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4/9/14 7:46 P

ARCHIMEDESII -- totally agree with what you said. That is why I am having the success I am. I totally gave up the "all or nothing" attitude and quit trying to be perfect on this journey. I also track every single bite and haven't missed a day in nearly 6 months!

Edited by: MCCC75 at: 4/9/2014 (19:47)
RAEJEANZ Posts: 82
4/9/14 3:37 P

Thx for the great tips.

EELPIE Posts: 2,700
4/9/14 12:59 P have a few things going on here.

"'I'm curious to know how ones mind is after they have achieved their weight loss goal."

Happiness. And the realization that if I revert back to my old ways of eating, that I literally will be back to losing the same weight a year later.

That is why this is a "lifestyle change" not a "diet". If you do not fully understand a question here, just like you did for this.

In a nutshell - learning healthy habits for life.

"My problem is that I want to lose this weight but I don't want to do the work."

Ok, do you mean exercise? Or do you mean changing your eating habits? Or both?

I lost my first 25 via "diet" alone. What does that mean. Swapping out junk food and garbage for whole, healthy lover calorie lower fat food. I was never hungry, either. Never. Know why? I used the many, many resources here (articles and message boards - esp. diet and nutrition) to learn what to eat.

I also learned how important tracking my calories every single day is (VITAL).

However...I wanted it. I wanted to lose weight and firm up my body and rock a mini-skirt! You kinda need to figure out if you really want it or not. Do you? For real?

"When I eat bad I feel guilty but the bad habits are SO VERY HARD TO BREAK. Any suggestions."

Well, yeah. Every single one of us started where you are right now. I started out slowly. I build up good habits by slowly replacing the bad ones.

Here are just a few examples:

Bring calories down slowly. Start at say 2000 cals...go to 1800 for 2 days, then 1600 for 2 days, then 1400 for 2 days...etc.

Start drinking more water. 2 a day. Then 4 a day. Then 6 a you are doing this, you replace sodas and starbucks.

Start eating more veggies...the low cal bulk super food!! As you start binging down your calories, you are going to naturally have to replace junk food and crap with something you start eating more veggies.

Exercise. Like I said, Iost my fist 25 via diet alone. But, what you do is (again) start slowly. 10 minutes a day 3 days a week. Then 15 minutes a day 3 days a week. Then 20 minutes a day 3 days a week. Then 20 minutes a day 4 days a week.

I also read the diet and nutrition thread all the time to learn from others what foods to eat to stay full and never feel deprived...know what they are? PFF, baby!! Protein, Fat (the good kind) and Fiber.

Most importantly, if I ever had a bad day, the next day I dusted my butt off and tried again the next day (I do one day at a time) and never gave up...because I really, really wanted this.

Do you?

lol...edited to add...way too many typo's to care about ;)

Edited by: EELPIE at: 4/9/2014 (13:01)
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4/9/14 12:39 P


ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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4/9/14 12:25 P

I agree with all the previous posters. It is mistake to think of the weight loss process as "things you have to do that you don't want to do ... in order to reach a goal." It's a mistake to think of it as a temporary process. It is a mistake to think that you will ever be "done."

What works in the long run (and also in the short run) is to think of living a healthy lifestyle TODAY. Do you want to live a healthy lifestyle or not? Do you want to be healthier TODAY? If the answer is "yes," then do a few healthy things today. Eat some healthy food, drink some healthy water, get some healthy exercise, reduce some of the unhealthy behaviors today. Then tomorrow, make the decision to live a healthy lifestyle again tomorrow.

You will never be "done" with the need to make that daily choice. And you probably never be perfect. But deciding to treat yourself well -- being kind to yourself and good to your body -- will pay off in the long run. You will soon see some positive changes and gradually, over time, establish new healthier habits.

Good luck to you.

RAEJEANZ Posts: 82
4/9/14 12:02 P

Thanks for the great advice. It helps so much to have support.

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4/9/14 10:51 A


"My problem is that I want to lose this weight but I don't want to do the work"

Before you change your body, have you to change your head. I wish there was an easy way to lose weight, but there isn't. Weight loss is a slow steady process that takes time and a lot of hard work. A person has to work in order to make a change.

I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

One of the most important head changes you can make is to stop looking at weight loss with that all or nothing mentality. Stop trying to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy and yet, whenever someone messes up, they are convinced the day is ruined. It's not.

Let's say you decide to eat exactly 1500 calories today and take a 30 minute walk. Well, let's say that you end up eating 1700 calories because you decided to eat a donut. Someone who diets would consider this day a loss because they ate the donut and went over their calorie limit.

Someone engaging in a healthy lifestyle would say, yeah, I ate that donut... BUT I also ate 4-6 servings of fresh fruit and veggies. I took a 30 minute walk and I drank 4 glasses of water.

Do you see the difference ? A dieter thinks their day is ruined because they ate too much. Someone living a healthy lifestyle acknowledges that there are days they eat a little too much, but they also realize they still did many other healthy things for that day even though, they ate a donut.

Good health is not all or nothing. Every little bit does make a difference. So, if you want to change your body, you have to start changing how you think about losing weight and taking care of yourself.

4/9/14 10:41 A

Pick one thing to focus on to start with. Don't worry so much about the scale for now. Since you're in this for the long haul, you gotta do baby steps first. For me, it was eating breakfast. I make myself eat breakfast every morning.

Edited by: JSTRUJILLO at: 4/9/2014 (17:04)
RAEJEANZ Posts: 82
4/9/14 9:11 A

Exercise is not my problem eating is my problem.

RAEJEANZ Posts: 82
4/9/14 9:08 A

Thanks for the great message, that really means a lot and I will print and post this so I can read it everyday. I need inspiration on a daily basis. Thanks again Raejean

LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 26,800
4/8/14 11:34 A

" My problem is that I want to lose this weight but I don't want to do the work."

Then you have to change that mindset.
Because if you don't want to do the work, you will not lose the weight.

IVYLASS SparkPoints: (227,949)
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4/8/14 11:10 A

Anything worthwhile is going to be hard. There is no quick fix, no magic pill. I would suggest finding ONE thing to change (stop drinking soda, walking a certain distance each day) and doing that.

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4/8/14 10:37 A

I like how I look, how I feel, and what I can do since I lost the 30# I had gained in college. I don't want to go back to being that person because that person wasn't as fit, confident, or energetic as I am now. The weight itself is a very small part of it for me, the things that resulted from me adopting a healthier lifestyle is what keeps me moving forward.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,523
4/8/14 10:23 A

Instead of thinking how life is going to be AFTER you reach your goal...
think about how you need to think to CHANGE the way you live now.
We choose the habits we hold on to and the ones we change. Is that temporary gratification of eating something you crave worth the guilt, the disappointment that you aren't losing, or the anticipation of the unhealthy rut you are stuck in.....?
Or can you see a future you can choose for yourself by making better choices today. Every choice is a step forward or a step decide which direction and how fast you go. And when you decide what is important to you then you CHANGE your mind about what you want to eat and how you want to take care of your body.

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
4/8/14 10:05 A

I'm pretty experienced with gaining and losing but my mindset after this recent loss is that I will be maintaining sub-120s forever as it feels so right.

But it does take the same focus to maintain (for me) as it took to lose and I don't intend to lose sight of that fact.

Constant vigilance.

4/8/14 9:26 A

My mindset after my initial weight loss was that I would look foolish if I gained any weight back so that kept me down in numbers for a while. Later I realized that I needed to gain a bit back to look healthy and because I was weight lifting. After that I would say to myself when I saw something tempting, "Will this food make me look hot?" Many cup cakes, cookies and fried chicken were saved as a result, LOL!

New habits break old habits, it's just replacing the bad ones with good ones. See "What's a habit" thread.

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,320
4/8/14 9:25 A

idk.... based on my own experience, with years and years of yo-yo dieting.... if the only goal you've got is to lose the weight... you can do it (maybe), but you won't maintain the loss. It'll only be a matter of time til you put all the weight back on-- and probably more. Because you're not interested in a healthy, well-balanced diet, beyond the benefit of weight loss. Because you're not interested in exercise, beyond the benefit of weight loss. You're not interested in making small changes that you can live with forever, or changing those bad habits that got you to where you are now. You're focused on the relatively short-term, of just losing the weight.

Bottom line-- if you do not change those bad habits, you are destined to not lose weight (or gain it all back, if you manage to lose it). Spark is an excellent source of articles on just about every topic you can think of, to help you break those bad habits and form some new, healthy habits.

RAEJEANZ Posts: 82
4/8/14 9:06 A

I'm curious to know how ones mind is after they have achieved their weight loss goal. My problem is that I want to lose this weight but I don't want to do the work. When I eat bad I feel guilty but the bad habits are SO VERY HARD TO BREAK. Any suggestions.

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