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BHENDRICK2 Posts: 1,210
6/28/14 12:49 P


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6/27/14 10:40 A


I think every single member of Spark has gone through what you are, right now. We're all experts at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. Well, that was the past. You can't change the past, but you CAN influence and change the future.

Like many of us, part of the problem may be that you're trying to do too much too soon. Your goals may be too ambitious for your mind/body to handle. That's why SP encourages all its members to start with simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals.

Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not exercising, don't start with an hour, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

And this is how we begin to learn newer and healthier behaviors. We don't start with an "all or nothing" mentality. We start with a few simple changes we can stick with.

That's what I did when I decided enough was enough and I needed to make a change. I started with a few simple changes. Each week or each month, you add 1 or 2 new habits. As time passes, those changes will eventually become a habit.

BUT... you have to give your body time to change. No one ever became a healthier eater overnight. it's impossible. it really can take months to make one simple change a habit. but once it's done, you won't ever have to think twice.

You take baby steps literally and figuratively. slowly incorporate these changes so that with time, they will become a habit.

Be patient with yourself and your body.

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6/27/14 9:26 A

It's not true, of course, that you are 'not getting anywhere'. Your body needs good food. Also if you're not losing weight, you are still doing your body a HUGE favor by eating foods with lots of nutrients and avoiding junkfood and sweets. And by exercising.
And this favor will be paid back by better health later on in your life.

So stop thinking about 'weight loss' and start thinking about, and working on HEALTH. If you can manage to build consistent good habits your weight should no longer be a problem in the longer run.

You cannot believe how miserable it is once your body starts to break down and gets health complaints after years of having been overweight. Please believe me. It's easy to think you can begin to work on healthier habits 'later' when you're younger. But you really need to build good habits NOW to be able to function well and be there for your loved ones (took a peek at your page) later on.
Please please, don't be like me, avoid the health problems, don't focus on weight loss but on exercising frequently and getting in healthy foods (vegetables, as much as you can, every day), and avoiding junk NOW. Now is the time to do it.

Edited by: -NORMA- at: 6/27/2014 (09:28)
SPARK_COACH_JEN Posts: 65,755
6/27/14 6:24 A

This is a great series of articles called "Mind Over Body" that I'd encourage you to read:

It can help you work through some of the common emotional and mental roadblocks when it comes to weight loss.

Hope it helps,

Coach Jen

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6/27/14 6:03 A

Is there something else going on in your life which is impacting on your? Things like family, work, sickness, depression, etc.? They can all impact on how we get through and our thought-processes, etc.

If there is something, are you able to talk with someone? Perhaps a Dr or a trusted family friend?


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6/27/14 5:55 A

I probably should add/remove little things at a time but I think I do tend to have an "all or nothing" mentality that sets me back a lot of times.

To answer your questions I made significant nutritional changes in January when I started (I used to eat pretty crappy) but I didn't add exercise until about 2.5- 3 months later. I don't do fad diets so I don't really deprive myself of any type of food groups although I do find I do better if I remove sweets all together because if I have 1 I have to have them all lol

I do get bored because I'm a picky eater and so when eating healthy I feel like I'm eating the same things a lot even though I try to search for new recipes and such, I feel like there's only so many ways to spin a salad ya know?

I don't skip meals and actually make it a point to eat something even if its small for breakfast because I didn't used to be much of a morning eater. I was tracking every thing so I feel like my meals were always pretty balanced but I haven't been lately.

I did try moving around my calorie intake with the increased exercise, I talked to my trainer about it and he recommended upping it for a week and then lowering and upping again etc. so I tried that a few weeks to see if that helped but I still wasn't losing. I wasn't gaining either which is good I suppose at least until recently but I know that's because I've just kind of abandoned eating healthy lately.

I just feel like I'm not in the right mindset for some reason and am trying to get back there, I start tracking in the morning but then seem to be slipping from there. I think I just lost my motivation when I stopped seeing results for so long. Its discouraging when I feel like I'm doing everything right and still not going anywhere =/

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6/27/14 5:29 A

No you aren't alone - many people have this exact same problem. Fortunately for me, it is one I haven't really had to deal with, except on the very odd occasion, and only for the one day.

I wonder if you focused on one day at a time. Tell yourself that ........
"Today I WILL eat healthy and exercise, and we will face tomorrow when it comes!"

Maybe you should think about starting with baby steps again, changing only one or two things with your nutrition, as in reducing ice-cream/cakes but increase fruit/veges, or decreasing soda/juice while increasing water. Only add something else to the mix when your mind has gotten used to the initial changes.

As a point of curiosity, when you initially started this journey in January, did you make lots of changes all at once?

Did you deprive yourself of something/s that you really enjoy?

Did you end up getting bored?

Did you skip any meals?

Were you eating within your calorie range taking into account the increased exercise?

Were you eating a balanced diet within your ranges for fat/carbs/protein?


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6/27/14 3:36 A

For some reason I can't get these 2 things on the same page. My mind says stop eating and start moving and my body says I'm too tired and who cares if you eat another bowl of ice-cream lol

I started this journey (again) at the end of january, vowing it to be the last "start" (again) and so far I haven't actually stopped. Pausing slightly but not stopping and for that I hang on to a little pride that keeps me going. In the first 3 months I lost about 30lbs.

I started picking up the exercise after that and see a personal trainer twice a week ever since. It seems like once I started with the exercise though I just stopped losing and after a month or so of not losing I slowly start slipping into old habits because I can't help but feel like why am I doing this if its not working anyway. & of course while I struggle losing I have absolutely no problem gaining so in the last month I've put on about 8 of the 30 lbs I've lost. It's been about 3 months of no weight loss now but I still go to the gym and work with my personal trainer twice a week. I skipped my last weigh in though because I didn't want feel like an idiot for gaining,

So now here I am, feeling pretty disappointed in myself, & the worst part is I know its a direct result of eating crap. I've been eating sweets and ice-cream like everyday & every time I try to pick up and start tracking again I just tell myself there's no point and I give in to another craving.

I just wish I knew how to get my mind and body on the same level. I don't know why eating healthy is such an epic battle for me. Am I alone in struggling with this? Help! lol

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