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COANNIE SparkPoints: (9,512)
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3/24/13 4:48 P

If not for marriage counseling, my husband and I would not be married today. I can't recommend it highly enough. And if you are a believer, see a Christian counselor. 6 years ago I was ready to throw away 17 years of marriage and be on my own. We decided to seek counseling, but I thought - I'll do it, and then I'll be justified to leave. Through the counseling, we learned how to be together, we remembered how much we loved each other, and it's been better ever since. I am so glad I went. I hope you are able to work it out.

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3/24/13 3:43 P

I was a long distance trucker for 31years, married 29 years. when I had to retire the stress of me and my wife having to look at each other everyday, and in each others way everyday really brought a need for readjustment. I had a choice give up some of my habits while trucking and realize that she lived here too. Instead of having to please myself only, I had to realize its a team effort and we are in it for better or worst till death do us part. I sometimes think that I do all the giving, but thats not true and life is to short to be mad all the time, and selfish, and I just figured it out, I don!t have the time needed to feel that way, so even if I do cave more than her, what the hell, we celebrate our 29yrs the 13 of next month. Hope the best for u and yours emoticon emoticon

KCDEEE Posts: 2,267
3/24/13 12:08 P

Hey girl. Talk a breath... I soooo know how you feel. but.... Don't feel trapped. Don't feel you can't change the situation.. But as everyone has said TALK. What have you got to lose? Express yourself. let him do the same. Then you decide if you can live with the outcome. NEVER ask a question that your not ready to hear the answer.
Best to you and I bet things work out and you both will have learned the need for better communication. emoticon

STARDUST2K4 Posts: 1,376
3/24/13 10:20 A

Those are some really strong feelings you're expressing. It might be a good idea to seek marriage counseling, or break it off if you're truly feeling like that.

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3/24/13 9:05 A

If that's the way you feel, why are you still with him?

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3/24/13 7:03 A


Have you talked to your husband about why you're ticked off ? If something is wrong, you have to talk and discuss the situation. All marriages have their difficult moments. It happens. Instead of going off to sulk, take a while to calm down and compose yourself. When things have settled, sit down and talk to your husband. If there have been continuing problems that you can't seem to settle, then you need to consider marriage counseling if you believe the marriage is worth saving.

3/23/13 11:21 P

After a year of being married, my husband and I split up. I moved in with my family he moved in with his. We lived like that for a year. Then we got back together, once he'd sorted his...crap out.
Our tenth wedding anniversary is this year.

Marriages are not easy. You have to decide if your relationship is worth saving. Then act. If you are better off without it, dump it, and the sooner the better. If you think it's worth saving, then figure out what will make it work.

What you don't want to do is sit and do nothing. THAT will lead to time wasted.

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (256,465)
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3/23/13 9:57 P

Does your husband know how you feel?
Have you both sat down and talked about any problems that can be ironed out - perhaps by a little give and take?
Do you think that couples' counseling might be beneficial?


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3/23/13 9:18 P

There is something called "divorce"...
Or, if you don't really mean it, maybe you should tell the "jerk" that he should be nicer to you, and then go on with your life and all that... ;D

NORE1969 SparkPoints: (14,936)
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3/23/13 7:12 P

Really po-ed at my husband today. I've been married to this jerk for four years now. What I wouldn't give to have those four years of my life back.

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