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MRPLATSON Posts: 336
5/14/10 10:24 A

I'm wondering, can you look back at yourself when you were in the 200+ range and say you accepted this kind of behavior in your life?
If the answer was yes, what has changed since then?

ALLEYCAT12380 Posts: 627
5/14/10 9:43 A

she hasnt mentioned it since, very flaky, she's more interested at the moment trying to get me shopping. This will be the third time trying to go shopping. We made plans twice before to go, then she cancels complaining she has no money, no job (apparently according to her, if you have an interview, that means you automatically have the job), lets hang out at my place, thats getting out, how come I dont see it that way?

I am really hesitante on making plans with her, even though she currently has a job with an income.

MRPLATSON Posts: 336
5/13/10 3:09 P

btw, how did it work out?

BEEZER417 Posts: 12
5/9/10 4:23 P

She doesn't sound like a wonderful friend to begin with. If you tell her that you honestly don't want to deal with all the drama again and she cuts you off, so be it. You are probably better off anyway.

Good Luck!

MRPLATSON Posts: 336
5/6/10 1:11 P

She doesn't want to be stressed out but she's fine unloading all that stress on you?

You can tell her "you're not up for the responsibility and you're uncomfortable with the pressure of the position".

I get the feeling the couple is better off eloping because they're not going to last a week.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,527
5/4/10 4:21 P

I agree with NikkiG, I was also stressed out by reading your post.

I think you already know what you should do.

NIKKIG3 Posts: 1,663
5/4/10 10:03 A

If you say no to being a bridesmaid I feel that the bride will take it badly because she sounds like a drama queen. Also does not sound like you gals are good friends anyway. But I feel that you should do what is best for you(physically and emotionally).

I was stressed out just reading your post. Go to the wedding as a guest so you dont have to worry about the details. So in the end, good or bad she (the bride) wont have anything to blame you for.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,527
4/30/10 3:15 P

You should tell her politely, no I don't want to be a bridesmaid.

If she is a good friend she will understand.

LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 26,404
4/27/10 3:22 P

"I don't want to go through the hassle again."

Sounds like you know what you should do.

ALLEYCAT12380 Posts: 627
4/27/10 3:13 P

A friend of mine, Kim, is getting married. She was engaged to Chris quite some time ago and she asked me then. I said sure. We got into a huge arguement about the wedding. She had 5 other bridemaids (including a MOH). 2 live in another provinces, I can see why they couldn't help out as much as me and the other 3 bridemaids.

I was annoyed that she was not including the MOH in looking. She wanted me to do all the work, including throwing a bachlorette party. She couldn't figure out why I wanted the others to be included. End result was that she kicked me out of the party and no longer wanted me in her life anymore, that I was never a friend to begin with.

6 weeks later she ended up crawling back, heat of the moment, she said that nasty thing. I wanted to have rules in place, no bringing up the past, drove her nuts when I did that apparently to her, and to call if you cannot show up, only polite thing to do (she was bad for that).

She is again engaged to Chris. She keeps changing her mind about the wedding. Anywhere from an elopement of no more than 6 people, to having a small wedding of up to 60 people at their new home. Her bridesmaid range from1 person up to 3 people. Including me as a bridemaid. I don't want to go through the hassle again. I said I'll think about it, I'll know more closer to the wedding.

She hasn't even set the date yet. So, I don't want the stress, she says she doesn't want too much stress, she hates it when she has an MS attack. So, I just want to hear everybody's point of view.

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