having a hard time getting pregnant.

Nikki,
My name is Dorothy (or Doro) and I can relate to this problem. A long story short, my fiance and I have been together 10 years. And while we were not actively trying to get pregnant, we weren't using any kind of birth control either. And we haven't had a baby. Well, now I'm 30 and I can feel my clock ticking. So I went to the gyn. First thing she said was that my irregular periods (which have never bothered me before) could be preventing the pregnancy. She said there were two main causes of constant irregular periods that often overlooked: thyroid imbalance and insulin resistance. I got tested for those, and several other problems this past Monday and am anxiously awaiting the results. I also go in for an ultrasound in just over a week to make sure there is nothing physically wrong with me.

I would definitely go get checked for any imbalances if I were you. And the best of luck to you.

Hi, Nikki! I am Kelly. I am 24 years old and my hubby and have been trying to get pregnant for over a year. I weigh 280 lbs. Right now I have decided to focus on getting healthier and losing weight and hopefully that will allow us to get pregnant. I know what you are going through, it is hard and frustrating seeing the negative sign on the test! Good luck to you :)

1. Get in touch with your doctor!

2. Insist that they test your thyroid...A full panel!
It took me 9 years to get pregnant, seeing fertility specialists, test after test.
Except for 1 test...my thyroid. It was the problem. My endocrinologist said it is one of the most common causes of infertility, but the least tested for. Make sure you get a FULL PANEL!

3. Be patient! Your body knows when it is the right time.

Most important...See your doctor! ASAP

I got pregnant when i was 20 and i am now 27. My son is 6 years old now. My now boyfriend and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 3 years(not consecutively though). I am 145 and i have been trying to lose weight for almost 5 years now and my boyfriend is obese. I think that being obese is definitely a reason but may not be the only reason you are not getting pregnant. My boyfriend and i are stressed out almost everyday, i have cysts on my ovaries a lot and he is overweight. Weight gain sometimes prevents periods and delays ovulation in women. Weight gain in men lowers there hormone levels so therefore lowers their sperm count. So it may be both of you. Go see a doctor and have both of you checked out and have him have a sperm count done. Good luck!

Hi -

I agree with the others about seeing a doctor after a year (or even 8 months or so) of trying. If you do get a diagnosis of infertility I recommend a Christian infertility forum - www.hannahsprayer.org for support and encouragement.

My hubby and I went through infertility but it was male factor.

Also I know people will say "you're still so young don't worry", I know that can be annoying but the truth is you are very young and you do have alot of time and statistically you will have a child some day.

I agree with what everyone is saying... I was 5'7" 125 when we first started trying and we didn't get pregnant either... Weight could play a role, but as everyone else said there could be something medical. We ended up doing in-vitro and having twins, then conceived on our own and had another 21 months later... Your ob/gyn can really help determine if there is a reason for you not conceiving, but they usually want you to have been actively trying for at least 6 months before they will start searching :-)
Good luck!

I'm so sorry. Fertility struggles are HARD.
I have two children and have been pregnant 4 times. I have found that each time I conceived was shortly after losing some weight and when I'm heavier and not doing anything to be healthier or lose, I have had trouble conceiving.
That said, bigger women conceive ALL the time, so it may or may not be related.
How long have you been trying? If it has been 12 cycles or more, definitely make an appointment with your ob/gyn.
I also have found that charting my cycles and using opk's greatly increased my awareness of exactly what my body was doing and when I am fertile. You may be ovulating earlier or later than you think you are if you're not already tracking your ovulation.

Good luck, I hope you are pregnant very soon!

Talk to your doctor....weight definitely plays a factor. It took us 2 years to get pregnant...and i found that stress had a lot to do with it. We were always worrying about why we weren't getting pregnant....I went on vacation with my mom, away from work and life at home. Husband and I took a breather from each other for the week...and from our calculations later, we got pregnant the day I came home from my trip. So, stress is huge. Take some time for yourself...get a massage, take a trip, etc. But definitely see your doctor to rule out any issues that might be preventing you from getting pregnant....as well, your partner should be checked too.Good luck...and smile and have fun : )

If it has been more than a year of :"trying" see a doctor. I was in my late 20s, 5 ft 6 and 135 pounds and had trouble getting pregnant, so there can be many reasons for not getting pregnant. They will test your partner's fertility,as it may not be you.

Your doctor can let you know what would be a healthy weight to start at for pregnancy, and maybe try to reach that first.

I second the recommendation to get the book "Taking Control Of Your Fertility" and to also lose weight. If you have been trying for longer than a year, then it's time to see a reproductive endocrinologist to run tests on you and your partner to make sure everything is in working order. One of the things they will ask you to do is chart your cycles which you will learn how to do in the recommended book so....

Get the book
Make an appointment to see an RE
Chart for a month or two

Go from there.

I recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, if you haven't read it yet. It's just great general info to have about your body and how it works. How long have you been trying? Are you working with a doctor?

It can't hurt to lose weight if you have weight to lose. Start by changing your diet, and if it's been over a year since you've tried and you haven't spoken with your OBGYN, I'd definitely make an appointment to do so. Good luck.

hey.. I'm nikki. I'm 22 years old.. I'm obese and having a lot of troubles getting pregnant. not sure if its due to my weight but I'm in the middle of trying to figure it all out. just wondering if anyone has any advice for me? Is anyone else having problems getting pregnant due to being overweight? HELP!!