I am so sorry to hear of the difficulties you are facing at this time. I did face a similar situation when my husband was ill. I felt as if my whole life was being consumed. It is probably difficult to believe, " but this too will pass". Hope your days will brighten soon.
thank you all for your encouragement and words of wisdom..so helpful when I don't feel like my brain is working at all. I did much better yesterday after reading your ideas. I plan to stay focused, get some easy and healthy foods in the house, and do some journaling..what a great resource sparks is...people caring about people again, thank you
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7/6/13 2:13 P
I'm sure the last few days and weeks have been emotionally trying. But, be kind to yourself as you would to others. I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline.
Try to find other ways to vent your stress that don't involve food. Try blogging. Writing out your feelings can be very cathartic. You don't have to blog online if you want to keep your thoughts private. you could write them down in a notebook.
You could go to the gym and take a class. I find a regular exercise routine helps me reduce stress. take a shower. take a walk. listen to some relaxing music. Keep yourself busy so that you don't have the urge to run to the kitchen.
I know that won't be easy, so you do the best you can. Hopefully, as you try to engage in other ways to reduce your stress, your binges will go into a decline too.
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7/6/13 1:31 P
Just wanted to say hang in there and be gentle on yourself. This is a crazy time for you - so much going on, so many emotions, and then top it off w/ a nice dose of exhaustion. I so understand. What you are feeling is normal. I think anyone would be tempted to eat for comfort!
Just do the best you can to eat as healthful as you can right now. Your body is really going to need all the good nutrients you can give it, even though you may feel like mainlining sugar & carbs is the way to go. : )
Cut yourself some slack...when you have time, go to the store to purchase (or have delivered) some nutritious food. Make sure you get in those fruits & veggies. Now is not the time for elaborate meals (unless you like to cook to relax). Save that extra time to get some rest for you or be w/ the hubby.
The journaling is great - even if you just type out some stuff and save it as a "work in progress" document. For me, I wouldn't even bother tracking (one less thing to do) but for others, that might be just the ticket to feel more in control in an out-of-control atmosphere. See what works for you. Try to get some sleep....a nice walk here and there, etc. Maybe someone can sit at home while a friend takes you out for coffee - just to get out of the house.
You have to take care of the caregiver (you!).
Good luck and hope hubby is doing better. Hang in there!
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5,052 7/6/13 12:25 P
Great idea about journaling!!
I'm sure you haven't even had time yet to think about "resetting" yourself by doing some healthy shopping, and stocking a supply of your favorite "go-to" healthy foods. Once you are able to do so, and take the time to make sure you are eating the right nutrients for yourself--focus on enough protein and healthy fats--you will find yourself coping much better.
I hope your husband heals well, and you can share good times together again soon!! Take care, patti
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7/6/13 11:51 A
I forgot to tell you- everything you're feeling is completely normal. Hang in there, things will get better. Your husband is very lucky to have you! You're in my thought and prayers!
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7/6/13 11:50 A
I am so sorry! That is such a difficult situation to be in. You have so many new demands placed on your shoulders on top of everything you already had. It will take a little time, but you will find a good groove and new routine and once that happens you will beable to refocus yourself and become more comfortable with your new-normal.
In the meantime, I would suggest starting a journal. Being a caregiver is not easy and the added pressure on you can make you feel so emotional and overwhelmed, yu don't want to complain to complicate things further. Use your journal for that. Get you angry, sadness, grieving of your old life, and frustration all out on that paper. When you feel like binging, just write instead. It can be so freeing to get it out and it will help clear your head.
Just looking for some encouragement and incentive..my husband has been very ill and we have spent over 20 days (in one month) in the hospital. I never left his side, slept on a cot next to him, ate when I could...now we are home and I am binging after he goes to sleep. I mean, the kind of binging that makes me feel very sick. I feel like all my emotions are in my mouth. I am way too old for this kind of behavior, yet I can't get control. I am going to start tracking my intake today. Oh, and since we got home, I have become nurse, cook and over-all I am responsible for everything in our lives. I am so very tired.. any encouraging words will be greatly appreciated...my stomach feels like a basketball