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TMCLEOD4 Posts: 1,673
10/11/11 10:34 A

I think being healthier will make me happier. I love shopping at regular sized clothing stores, that should make me happier as well. Maintaining the weight loss will make happier still.

BLONDIEGRRL Posts: 1,174
10/11/11 10:28 A

For me it's not about being thin -- it's about being fit and healthy. So, yes, I am happier now. And I'm still not thin, lol.

GMAHOSS1 SparkPoints: (0)
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10/11/11 10:22 A

thinner is just on the outside! the benefits of losing as much as i need to lose is health issues in order for me to be healthy and enjoy life more. i can now even if i have only lost 26 pounds i now can play with my great grandson way better now and am less winded when i do

PEDAL-PUSHER Posts: 6,501
10/11/11 10:08 A

Being thinner has made me happy BUT not because I am thinner. Weight loss was (and continues to be) a process of shrinking externally and growing internally. Through the process i learned to really like myself and enjoy my own company......THAT made me happy. Ya gotta learn to love yourself, no matter what size you are or how many wrinkles you have.

RUBENB2003 Posts: 14,837
10/10/11 11:07 P

no, not being thin but being fit would make happy.

LAHERMAN Posts: 749
10/10/11 11:01 P

I will feel better and will be able to buy cuter clothes! I know many thin people who are miserable people.

LMJ2874 Posts: 1,152
10/10/11 10:58 P

On some level, yes. But I know it is not going to be really happiness. I believe it will help my self esteem. I will be happy with being a healthier person.

KAR807131 SparkPoints: (0)
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10/10/11 9:30 P

No, being thin will not make me happy. The accomplishment should feel good, but happiness is a state of mind and no matter your size you should feel happy.

R3DROBIN Posts: 1,389
10/10/11 9:28 P

i know youre not supposed to think that way but i do. i feel like if i was thinner i wud feel better about myself and get out of the house more...hence doing things that make me happy instead of laying on the couch stuffing my face. for the past 5 years thats all ive done. and the bigger i get...the less i do.

10/10/11 8:15 P

No. I just think I will be able to move around better and have more strength to do everything that is necessary to maintain my house and yard. I believe happiness is a choice we make.

NEUSERIVER Posts: 1,474
10/10/11 8:11 P

on some deep and dark level, I do

LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 26,781
10/10/11 7:20 P

Happiness is a choice, NOT a number on a scale.

10/10/11 7:01 P

No, but the process of getting there has sure been a lot of fun, and I have to admit being thin will be a nice bonus.

NSTARSMITH Posts: 3,650
10/10/11 7:00 P

How 'bout happiER - cuz I will be able to improve my self-regard for doing this (again) but even more so for maintaining it. But I will still be me, with foibles and flaws to work on, and life will still dump on me occassionally. But this oughta improve my self-confidence a bit. so I'll be able to handle it better ...

SMWILLIAMS29102 SparkPoints: (15,346)
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10/10/11 7:00 P

NO, because I'm already happy. Being thin with keep me healthy.

GRATEFULBOB Posts: 2,756
10/10/11 6:57 P

no but feel healthier

NEWKAREN43 SparkPoints: (0)
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10/10/11 6:56 P

not happy, but perhaps more content

HINOTO SparkPoints: (0)
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10/10/11 6:50 P

My goal is just to be a smaller size than what I'm currently at. I'm not looking to be a size 0 or waifishly skinny. I just want to be able to buy normal sized clothing and not be in so much pain anymore.

So yeah, I will be a bit happier. less pain= good.

4XCHARM SparkPoints: (0)
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10/10/11 6:48 P

I've reached my goal weight, and also feel incredibly energetic and fit.
I am happier than I was. But there are always bumps in the road to make life interesting.
When I was heavier, I knew I could feel better. And I do.
I read somewhere " May you have just enough fleas to make scratching pleasurable."

AANGEL3 SparkPoints: (176,826)
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10/10/11 6:10 P


SLLEE1961 Posts: 2,277
10/10/11 6:09 P


ALYSSA40 Posts: 394
10/10/11 5:52 P

My goal is to he smaller, not thin - there's a diff. But yes, I will be happy when I'm at my body's healthiest size. No more worries about my health and the dangers that I could be in and I can wear my clothing comfortably again.

CAMEOSUN SparkPoints: (86,617)
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10/10/11 5:39 P

Don't want to be thin either. Just fit.

SCHOPPEK Posts: 1,237
10/10/11 5:33 P

Wow! There are some wonderful responses on this thread! Being thinner makes me feel better about myself, but happiness goes much deeper.

PUDLECRAZY Posts: 4,471
10/10/11 5:05 P

No, my happiness is not determined so much be how I look. But it does make me feel healthier and more energetic.

10/10/11 5:03 P

Being able to do more things because I am thin will make me happy!

MAMA4MANY Posts: 29
10/10/11 5:02 P

I think being thin can quickly become a obsession. I believe I was happier when I was 190 lbs. I never cared about my weight, I ate whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted and I felt confident and sexy. Ever since I have decided to lose weight and get healthy I have been super critical of myself and obsess over every bulge like it's the end of my life, I feel shy, ugly and like a failure most of the time. I've been trying to reach my goal weight for 4 years and have never reached the goal this makes me feel extremely bad. Once I reach my goal weight, I fear it will not be enough and I'll still be dissatisfied; I often ask myself "when is enough, enough!" I don't have an answer to that and after starting this journey I don't feel confident I'll ever be satisfied. Once I finally reach my goal body look, then my life will turn to maintaining it. .it's so exhausting.

KELEKONA Posts: 605
10/10/11 5:01 P

The only thing I'd gain from trying to be my proper weight is the justification to really scream at my inability to shop at "normal people" stores.

My pant size is 40/32 right now. I'm female wearing man-pants and that's after the jeans have been in the dryer.

My goal is to someday steal my husband's 36's for a day, but I'd have to have reconstructive surgery on my pelvis to get any smaller. (Back in the 80's, before waistbands dropped, I think 16 was the largest size that didn't have elastic in the waistband and I started feeling really bad about buying pants. Fortunately I have a stupid trend to base most of my pants problems on.)

The fat layer around my ribs and shoulders probably isn't much... my arms have lost some of their tone, but I doubt that the fat layers in those areas exceeds an inch... yet I become trapped in "one size fits all" camisole-dresses.

DEEBS426 SparkPoints: (2,441)
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10/10/11 4:55 P

all i know is that i felt better about myself when i was smaller

10/10/11 4:44 P

We choose to be happy - thinner will make me feel a little more self-confident

MEOWMEEEOW SparkPoints: (49,972)
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10/10/11 4:25 P

no, but I am happy when I'm able to do more things

TACDGB Posts: 6,136
10/10/11 4:20 P

Happiness is not based on my weight. I do like my body more now that I am thinner. But it hasn't made me any happier.

10/10/11 4:05 P

I have been "thin" and I was not happier... I was healthy...I looked good... but happiness is a choice that you make everyday. I am losing weight for myself, to live a longer life and to be able to do the things that I love to do. THAT is what makes me happy. The results of being healthy not being "thin"

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10/10/11 4:01 P


MORTIZ8234 Posts: 742
10/10/11 3:36 P

No, I think it will make me healthier.

10/10/11 3:34 P

I don't think being thin will make anyone happy. Sure it might increase your happiness but you need other things in your life to make you truely happy. I'm really happy right now in my life but i mean if i lose a couple more pounds i won't really be any more happy just for confident.

MMEEAAGG Posts: 723
10/10/11 3:20 P

I am pretty thin now and I used to be almost 300 pounds...Losing weight is not the key to happiness...It has nothing to do with your weight, flaws, etc. Women make the mistake of losing weight to gain confidence, when in reality, if you're not confident as a big girl, confidence doesn't appear out of nowhere as a thinner woman. If anything, it just makes you obsessive about it. I believe people have to feel comfortable with who they are as a person, and love the skin they're in...Every flaw, every scar, every stretch mark, EVERYTHING before someone decides to lose weight. If they try to lose weight and THEN gain confidence, it's kind of doing it ass backwards. Unless you try to find confidence on the journey, I think that could be healthy too.

I wanna barf everytime I see those weight loss commercials..."I'm so confident now that I'm my husbands trophy wife!!!" *PUUUKE* People need to lose weight for themselves and health reasons not just to be thin and please society/a man!!

And I agree, some women do not look good very thin....

I have a lot of big friends who are extremely happy, get tons of guys, are very outgoing. I also have very thin friends who are shy, insecure, and don't date as much.

Sorry for my rant :P Good thread topic!!

Edited by: MMEEAAGG at: 10/10/2011 (15:21)
LADYHAWK2K1 Posts: 228
10/10/11 3:08 P

I'm not trying to be "thin" but I am working on being a healthy weight. I'd like to lose another 10-12 pounds, but if I end up stabilizing where I am and toning my body, I'll be happy with that. It's more about being healthy than thin for me. I was badly overweight and am at an age where excess weight and poor nutrition can lead to serious health problems in a hurry.

10/10/11 2:51 P

I used to feel that being thin would make me happy. I got down to about 105 at one point (in a not so healthy way) and I've come to realize that I was no happier at 105 than I was at 140. This unfortunately didn't sink in until I read Kate Harding's article on the fantasy of being thin. It's been a hard fantasy for me to give up but I've managed to squash it when it tries to come back. I'm happy now, and it doesn't have to do with what size of pant I'm wearing. My happiness has more to do with my own feelings of agency than my weight now, and I'm certainly healthier mentally for it.

CHEETARA79 Posts: 3,973
10/10/11 2:47 P

I'm happy right now and I am obese. Why wait till you're thin to feel happy?


FENWAYGIRL18 Posts: 5,868
10/10/11 2:38 P

some people think that if they were only thin they'd be so happy and in order to stay thin they do such drastic things... I'm not looking to be super thin that's not realistic, I just want to be healthy. I'm not looking to be a size ZERO, but my friends goal is to be that and she's a size 2 right now and it really doesn't look good on her...
I was talking to my friend that recently lost weight and now it seems she's too thin, but if I were to say I think she's too thin, she'd take it as me being jealous when in fact I think she looks unhealthy now.
At least when she was heavier she seemed happier and looked healthier, now she is all bones and it's like losing all the weight makes her nose look larger and she never looked like that with a little weight on her...
she was never obese, she was chunky..... it seems to me that she is less happy being thin , then she was being a little heavy....

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