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3/18/13 5:32 P

Hey, Meeka! Always good to see you here!

No, nobody's going to react negatively to your coming back here! You're a strong, courageous, determined person, and I love that you're so brave to come back publicly. When I came back (for the 9,999,999th time, and with my thousandth-or-so SparkName), I didn't tell anyone I was back...and yet, you know what? I think many - if not even most! - of us are returning members! If this weren't such a major life change, it wouldn't be such a huge, successful site. So welcome HOME!

I envy you having a nice doggie to walk! I miss ours... and I like all the advice you've gotten from those who promote gradual, doable changes. Those are the best kind, and before you know it, you've retooled the whole way you live. It all gets to be second nature.

Your habit changes are great ones, and it's shifts like them that'll get you where you want to go.

Really looking forward to hearing more from you! All the best on your journey.

Edited by: CIRANDELLA at: 3/18/2013 (17:32)
KARA623 Posts: 727
3/18/13 4:12 P

I agree with Archimedes. It's very overwhelming to try to change everything at once.

Breathe. Make a couple of changes to start with. Master them. Make a couple more. I started weight watchers at 248 lbs after having lost 14 lbs on my own and getting stuck. The way I ate counting points on WW and the way I eat now are so different that you wouldn't even think I was the same person. I started out planning when and how to incorporate my favorite junk food into my weight loss plan, and i was successful at it. Now, I almost never eat junk food, but my diet went through several evolutionary steps to get there. Baby steps. Think in baby steps.

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3/18/13 1:58 P

I'm so glad to come back to my profile seeing no one criticize me and tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself. That truly empowered me, so thank you to everyone. I just wanted to kind of update everyone and tell on myself a little. Since my post, I began the healthy track again, but overdid it with getting through a Zumba Fitness, Exhilarate work out almost fooling myself into old behavior. I never started with starting small and making changes that stick. I will take that away with me, because obviously I've never done anything that has stuck regarding healthy living. So no more Zumba Fitness Exhilarate for a while. I AM, however, commiting myself to waking up earlier to take my dog for a 15 minute walk every morning. I started today. That's the main thing I want to have stick. I felt great knowing that my dog got a long over due walk which you can tell he LOVES, while I got to jump start my day with good tunes and a natural energy boost. I never drank 8 glasses of water in a day in my life. I have a brita filtered water bottle, and I am commiting myself to do that as well. Those are the two things I will commit to for at least 21 days (assuming that's still the same amount of time it takes to form a habit emoticon ) I want to do this right and I thank you for your guidance. I see that tons of people are struggling with the exact thing I did and it probably gets annoying after a while, so I thank you for your patience with me and for taking the time out to respond to my post when there are thousands of others you could've picked. I really appreciate it. Wish me luck. I'll keep a blog updating life. Thank you.

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3/13/13 11:59 A


Even though you've been a member off/on for a while, I give all new members once piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

I say you should give yourself a lot of credit for getting yourself off drugs. that is a HUGE personal accomplishment. I can't tell you what that has done to help you live a long healthy life.

I know things may seem overwhelming right now, but the others are right. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals first. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not exercising, don't try to work out for an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how good health starts. It's not "all or nothing". it's about making a few simple changes we can stick with. You have to believe this, but it's true. One small change CAN change your life !!

If you need support, post on the forums. the spark community will help and support you.

3/13/13 11:50 A

As was said previously, you have already accomplished so much! If you can make huge life changes like you have made, you can do anything. You MUST be a strong person. You would have to be to beat life-threatening addictions.

You need to pick ONE thing and focus on it. Take your extremist nature and focus on that ONE thing. Be extreme about drinking your eight glasses of water a day. Be an extremist about exercising ten minutes a day. Dedicate yourself to ONE thing. Once you've mastered that, move on to ONE MORE thing. Change your life in small steps. Sparking isn't all or nothing. It's about making small changes that stick. It's about changing your life, not just about losing weight.

I know you can do this. You have the strength already. You've proven that. You have every reason to believe in yourself!

Edited by: LILLIPUTIANNA at: 3/13/2013 (11:50)
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3/13/13 10:14 A

Hey there, MEEKA...

First 'n' foremost, you're to be really CONGRATULATED for giving up drinking and drug use ALONG WITH smoking!! That's pretty fabulous stuff there emoticon emoticon emoticon All of that is proof positive that you can lose the weight you want to lose, too. I don't think there's a *shred* of truth that you are doomed to weigh what you currently weigh. You have already overcome some of the most powerful addictions imaginable; they bode well for weight loss, too

Where this is different is that we (obviously) can't just give up eating; we've got to eat to live. It's that necessity that makes weight loss tricky...

First off, make a list of all the reasons why you want to lose this weight. I can imagine that number one might be that you're beginning to see some medical problems arise, and those are very serious business. When I saw some of my blood-fat values go way out of range and heard my doctor's concern, that's the one time in my 59 years (!) I was finally able to buckle down and lose the weight for good. That one compelling reason really lit the fire; the alternative meant possible stroke or heart attack, and then, diabetes as well...

I don't know what your medical situation is right now, but for mine (high triglycerides and cholesterol), the doctor recommended avoiding all "white" foods, i.e., flour, rice, pasta, potatoes, and added sugar. This meant radically changing my diet to one based on protein, fruit, vegetables, and calcium sources. It also meant shopping almost solely in the perimeter of the grocery store.

I did this much as you may have quit alcohol, drugs, and smoking: one day at a time. If I had to look at all 75 pounds on Day One, I would've failed for sure. It was just 24-hour blocks of time for me. I had been a really severe binge-eater, so it was very difficult to completely break that cycle. Actually, sometimes it was only a moment at a time, when I came up against really tempting challenges.

But I never, ever regretted turning down temptations. In hindsight, it was ALWAYS a positive move. What I'd strongly recommend more than anything is that you carefully track what you eat - regardless of how your daily food intake shapes up - on Spark's nutritional tracker. Do it diligently, and weigh your food if you can (I still do). You get used to it, believe me.

Pretty soon, you'll stop dropping pounds...and that brings me to another strong suggestion: Don't weigh yourself more than once a week; doing otherwise brings, without a doubt, discouragement, as our weight is subject to fluctuation within a seven-day period.

All the best to you...and with your history, no doubt in my mind that you can do this!

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3/13/13 9:36 A

Maybe you are setting goals that are a bit too big for now. What I mean when I say that is, if you go all-in right away, you may be trying to do too much, too fast, and it becomes overwhelming.

I completely get wanting to lose as much weight as possible right away, believe me. However, starting small sometimes works better for people. So, maybe just make a goal of tracking your food and making small modifications. Instead of eating a burrito from Chipotle, get a bowl. Get a burger, but no cheese. Drink water or flavored water instead of any type of soda.

While they seem like small changes, what you are doing is building a foundation for a long-term healthy life by forming better long term habits.

Figure out where you want to start, and what your goals are. Set your steps according to that.

For me, I want to wear an 8/10 again and lower my blood pressure. So my short term goals were to eat less salt (which meant eating out a LOT less) and getting some exercise. I would walk on my breaks at work. And that was it. I managed to lose 20lbs doing it that way. After that, I started making bigger changes. I'm up to 50lbs lost so far, and it is not the fastest I have lost weight, but because I am working on forming better habits I feel more confident this time that I will not only lose the weight, but keep it off.

Best of luck!

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3/12/13 11:28 P

I feel so lost. I've been on and off SP for a while. I used the food tracker and realized the amount of calories I consume daily, which sent me into a panic to eat more because I was scared I'd have to stop eating what I like. All self induced pain. Since I've started SP, I was 190 and now I'm 245...and its only been like a year. It baffles the heck out of me because I quit drinking/drug use 3 years now and at the end of the month I'll be 3 years as a nonsmoker. It's like I replaced everything with food. I'm not unique, but I'm stuck. Every day I tell myself I will eat healthy, I will drink more water, I will work out, but everyday I'm trapped in the cycle of over eating beyond belief. It's out of control. I pray about it, I journal about, and I'm overwhelmed with taking the first step. What is it? How do I really change this time? I want it more than anything but I've never been healthy in my entire life and have never had an example of what healthy means. Am I doomed to this miserable existence? Just thinking about this depresses me and sets off a trigger to go eat something. I'm starting to get medical problems. I feel like I'm losing my mind. Advice anyone? Where do I start to build consistency and momentum? I'm an extremist by nature, but I don't want to repeat failed attempts at getting healthy. Please, someone who knows what this feels like, share with me how you got out of this bottomless pit of hopelessness!!!!

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